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writes:I met my boyfriend in 2007 we went out for almost a year then i broke it off due to trust issues. We got back a few months later. We've been together now for almost 2years. I love him but i'm stil questioning if he's the one. We get along, we understand each other and we love each other a lot. Problem is my parents stil don't approve of him, he doesn't know what he wants in life other than being with me, i feel i can't rely on him financialy and emotionaly if we ever get married. Not saying i want him to do everything. But i'm always there for him no matter what. I want to feel the same way with him but i don't. 2years and i stil don't know if he's the one. Is that a sign to leave? He's my first real love and i don't know what to do. Someone please help me :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): awwww THANKS HEAPPSSS for all your answers i really needed another opinion from someone elses perspective. much appreciated :):):) x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 So that's where my soul mate is! Why didn't I think of going to China sooner? Or India, he might be in India as well. This explains a lot, thanks dannn!
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reader, dannn  +, writes (18 March 2011):
Just take life as it comes, when you look to far into the future things can shift out of focus, scare you, and make you question everything. If you love him, then stick with him and if something happens roll with it. I doubt you'll be getting married anytime soon, and if you're wondering whither or not you're "soul mates" you should logically think that one through. (7 billion people in the world, if there's a "soul mate" he's probably in china, not to mention the whole idea is as ridiculous as tom cruises belief in scientology).
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reader, chigirl +, writes (18 March 2011):
Aren't you a little too young to be worried about getting married? If you don't feel like he's the one, perhaps it has less to do with your compatibility, and more to do with you (or both of you) not being ready for that commitment yet in your lives. When the rime is right for both of you things will be clearer. Do you feel that right now is a good time for you to get married? Or are you nervous that if you stay with your boyfriend you might never get married (as you think he might not be the one)?
I say wait until YOU want to get married. THEN deal with whether or not he is the right guy to marry. Until then don't stress it, enjoy every day, and enjoy your relationship. If it feels dull or stall and you don't want to be in one any more, break it off. If you're happy the way things are then stay. When the time comes around that you are ready for finding a man to marry, re-evaluate your boyfriend and see what you think.
A lot of people marry happily ever after in their 30-ties. So no worry. Marrying young is not the recipe for an everlasting good marriage. You don't have to find a man to marry right NOW.
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reader, potmanrules +, writes (17 March 2011):
you will know when "he's" the one all you have to do is to ask him about his feelings for u and u tell him ur feelings for him and then try to get hin to tell you his persinality (whitch u probebly already know) it's diferent with everyone like me for example ive been going out with my girlfreind for 8 months and in the 1st month i knew she was the one but whatever is best for u (Hope i help :).)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): Hiya,i know exatly how you feel . ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and im still questioning if hes the one.i think in your heart deep down you will know . I believe if you found the one you wouldnt even question it .im in the same boat as you really. Do whats best for you!..... good luck x
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