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writes:so thnx for reading. well i need sum serious advice and asap! their are 2 ppl who are completely in love w/ me and have confessed this to me...i how ever do not feel the same towards either of them.they are both females. and i only love as friends.and another problem is neither of them even live in the same state as me. and i was wanting advice on how to tell them how i feel...w/out coming off like i don't care at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, angel_of_xbl +, writes (14 August 2007):
angel_of_xbl is verified as being by the original poster of the question thnk u both of u for ur advice. and i am still contemplating it. again thnk u. XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Just put yourself in their position and ask yourself how you would want someone to let you know that they are not interested but just want to be friends.
It could be that you would want them to say nothing. Or it could be that you would want them to let you know. Or it could be that you would want them to tell you really quickly. Or it could be that you would want them to have a looong drawn out talk about it.
However, you would want it to be expressed or not, to you, is how you should approach it with them.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (14 August 2007):
Simply say that you wish to only remain friends and that is all you can offer. You simply do not feel the same way. If they want to talk about it, talk about it, but let them know it does not change things.If one or both cannot respect this decision, remind them that if they truly love you, they will not force you to do anything you don't want to do and will respect your decision and allow you to do what is good for you. If these two women don't know each other, maybe you should have them meet and it could take pressure off of you.
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