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writes:So I've been at college for 3 months now, and it's hard on me and my gf of 3 years. I'm two states away. Recently we took a "break" just to see where our lives were, and we both decided it was a mistake, that we never wanted to be apart. BUT, while we were on break she let this guy take her out on a date. Well, last night he kissed her. She called me crying because she kissed him back. She tells me she loves me but it is hard not being able to hold/kiss/hug me, and she doesn't want to break this guy's heart or mine. I feel like I am losing her. I will be back in less than two weeks for a weekend and then two weeks after that for a whole week. What can I do? I don't want to lose her, she's the love of my life. Help.. Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (22 November 2009):
 LDR's rarely if ever work... Too many hot people, booze, drugs, temptation.
Rest assured your GF will fall to that temptation. If you think she wont you are kidding yourself. The next teary phone call will contain this phrase "I'm just so confused"
which means......
"I'm going to have sex with this guy and try to keep it a secret but I really cant becuase you are going to find out anyway, so please dump me so I can screw this guy and not feel remorse".
Go out and find a hottie near you to date. This relationship is doomed
Give it up..she went out on a date...you already lost her
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 November 2009):
This is no longer your problem, it's hers. She doesn't know what she wants anymore. She has kind of proved that she is not ready for a relationship like this, since you took a break, came back together and she then kissed someone. She now says that it's hard that you are away, but she doesn't want to break HIS heart. That means she's simply doenst' love you enough, no matter what she says. A kiss will turn into much more I'm afraid. You can try talking to her about it, but I think in the end it won't work, becasue she's just not ready to handle a committed relationship like this where you are going to be away much more. Let's face it, how long until she cheats? I'm sure she is confused, and I know you don't want to let her go, but I have a dreadful feeling that she simply deosn't love you enough. Now you need to decide whether you want to talk to her and try to make it work, or whether you'd be better ending it now, healing your heart and finding someone who is able to handle a relationship. Don't be second best.
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