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writes:i have a new amazing group of friends but two guys fancy me, they are fighting between each other and threatening each other, I don't like either of them more than a friend and I have made that clear so I don't know what else I can do butI don't want our group to break up because of it, please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Miggy +, writes (16 March 2008):
I think what you should do is just have a word with them-tell them outright and then who knows? imagine you are a tree and you have many branches..yeah i forgot my point there but I can see what you mean, obviously your friends must be pretty amazing, maybe if you have a group leader you can get them to have a word?Or you never know-maybe your feelings will develop for the guys? One of my friends had exactly the same situation just the other day. good luck!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Tell them that you are gay! Well, it could actually get you off the hook for a while - until you start dating other guys! If you have only been really polite with them in the way that you have been "gently letting them down", then now is the time to be rude and blunt. They obviously are a bit slow on the uptake, and you sometimes have to hit testosterone-laden guys over the head with it in order to get your point across. The more "other" guys that you bring in and date, the more your point will finally sink in, so dating someone in front of them could actually help you out.
You may want to please all of your new friends and not rock the boat, but you obviously haven't made yourself and your lack of interest clear to them, they haven't heard your message loud and clear. Sometimes you have to break eggs in order to make an omelette. You can't have your cake and eat it too. I'm going to eat something now...
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