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writes:I have been with this guy for 5 years we have two children together he always seems i was every thing to him in 2007 we plained to get married in october 2008 and in the mean time we both were trying to have a baby we tryed for almost a year and i had a miscarged in december 2007 and we finely got pregnet in jan and i am still thank god we were both happy . finding out my due date was in oct he said we should get married sooner. but we really didnt made a new date then he stared to act diffrent seems he didnt care about me any more being sick all the time because of the pregnacy and then out of the blue he tells me he dosnt feel the same for me any more HE DOESN'T LOVE ME i have been in shock this is a guy i loved was going to spend the rest of my life with and was there 100% with me WHAT HAPPENED i need some one to help me what should i do?
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reader, chinka +, writes (16 March 2008):
chinka is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers everything is the same i am looking to move with my children i will keep uupdated soon but if any one els have anuther answer please do
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reader, raima  +, writes (16 March 2008):
 I think he is very smart ..he use you anbd last when finaly he found you pregnant so he is trying to leaving you. Dear i dont know how much you love him but i know only one thing that if a man dosen't respect women he is not a man he is a eunuch as far as my thinking. Leave him dont love him and try to be happy with your own life.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (14 March 2008):
It is difficult to assume why this guy has fallen out of love with you. You say you were both trying for a baby but then were very unfortunate to have had faced the very bitter journey of enduring a miscariage.
I wonder if you both have come to the full terms of dealing with the consequencies of something as horrible as this? I know from personal experience how guys tend to bottle up their feelings over this kind of thing and how it hurts and drains everything out of you. I deliberately kept clear emotionally of any future pregnancies that occured and that did put an aukward strain on the relationship at this time.
From what you have said I remain unsure if it is this that has caused problems between the two of you or the fact that the dates of the marriage have been changed. Is he one of these guys who holds the esteem of marriage as a very important thing?
I personally think you need to look at these two events to try and find out what it was that has upset him too much for him to want to carry on.
Also if you have had two children a miscarriage and another pregnancy in the five years you have known each other he has virtually only ever known you in a pregnant state. Out of the 60 months you have been together you have been pregnant 30-33 of them - is he sick of dealing with the scenario of pregfnancy?
This needs looking into if you really wish to continue this relationship with him. Also by the sound of it he needs to open up and talk to somebody for his own sake too.
I don't think there are any straight forward answers to this one but I hope what I have put can go some way towards helping you.
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