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writes:Dear Cupid,I'm sorry to bother you but I'm in a big bit of trouble. A few months ago I got together with a good friend of mine who I had always thought I wanted to be with. However we never made it official and while away on holiday I got together unexpectedly with another friend. When we returned things resumed as before with my first friend, still unofficial. Me and my second friend started spending more time together and one night kissed. My first friend was so hurt by this, and i hadn't realised he had felt so strongly about me. I told my first friend that i had feelings for both of them and had to have time alone to decide. After talking to friends, I decided my second friend was who I really felt for and told him so. He left for home and then I began to feel strongly for my first friend and slept with him (loosing my virginity) and now I don't know what to do. Please please help me. I know it sounds like a stupid problem but I don't want to hurt either of them! Thank you XXXXXX
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reader, Here4You +, writes (30 May 2007):
Hi. Seems like you've got yourself into a bit of a muddle. The best suggestion i can think of is to think hard about which one you most likely have a future with. If you're having feelings about your first partner whilst you are with your second, then maybe you made the wrong decision. But before you leave him for your first partner, be sure that you won't feel this way about him whilst with your first partner. It's your decision and nobody else's. Good Luck making your decision.
P.S. Maybe a close friend could help?
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reader, nologo  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Distance yourself from both of them for a while.
This should help you to sort out your feelings.
Your concern is clear:"I don't want to hurt either of them!"
Eventually someone will be hurt here, but not at the moment.
Both guys are emotionally involved with you - this is a fact.
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