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*ami
writes:Right i am a bit confused right now and would really apprechiate some advice, i don't wanna go on but i need to put it in detail for you to understand.I met this guy online about 4 weeks ago, i really liked the sound of him, so messaged him and he messaged back. we were soon chatting on msn for 6 hours a night, finding out more about each other.we have loads in common, we love the same bands and our personalities are very similar, we got very flirty and one night he asked me to describe my perfect man, and i described him and he did the same with me, we then got onto pictures and i said how attractive he was and he did the same with me. so we ended up talking every night, and i really really started to like him.So we ended up texting one night, and he said how much he wanted to see me and be with me, so i got really excited thinking something's gonna come of this, and he said he wanted to meet me the next day so i said that was fine. The next day i went shopping and bought a new outfit and made a real effort. Anyway waited all day and didnt hear anything from him, and then I got a text saying his friend had been taken into hospital and he had been with him, so that was fine, he apologised and said we could do it some other time. I believed him and was ok with it, as i did really like him. That night he rang me at early hours of the morning (we had never spoke on the phone before) and he apologised again and we ended up talking for 3 hours and we both made each other laugh and got on so well.When i put the phone down i just proper felt feelings for him which is mad i know. So anyway we arranged to meet the following weekend. We talked every night again, and we were both looking forward to it, and so the day came and i spent ages sorting my outfit out and being nervous. Again i didnt hear from him all day so i thought the same was gonna happen, i then got a text saying he was really sorry but he had been stuck on the motorway all day coming back from london, and was not gonna be back in time and he was too tired/stressed. So as dissapointed as i was (you know that feeling girls?) i said i was ok with it and went to bed, and he rang me again and had a joke etc. I didnt hear from him for a few days, so i decided that maybe this was his way of telling me he didnt like me? So i tried not to think about him and move on, because other guys had been asking me out, and i put them all on hold due to him. Then last night he started talking to me again, and was being so nice, and i just went all weak again :( Then i went to bed playing it cool, and he rang me at 5am this morning, and we were on the phone for ages again, and he really makes me laugh etc, and he said how cute i was and then he was joking saying he wanted to be in bed next to me etc. Anyway i went to sleep, and this morning decided to ask if he was interested in meeting me again, and he said he wanted to but wasnt sure when (he walked out of his job a couple of days ago) so he has a lot to think about.I just feel like im hanging around?! I said to him if he wasnt interested or wanted someone else then to tell me but he said he likes me. I just don't know what to do because i really like him. Do i wait for him or move on? Advice will be greatly apprechiated sorry its so long :)xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): wow! well i am in that exact same situation, exept he doesnt call me at late times but everything else is spot on, the meetin up, then no contact, everything is really the same!! so i knw exactly how ur feeling! and its confusin! i really don't know what to do either, cos i find wen i'm with other guys i feel guilty. i think in a way the male reader the third answer was quite the answer i would most like to take! put sum pressure on him show him that hes not the only fish in the sea and that there are many guys out there that would happily have you! but stay close dnt make him feel like u dont want him but dnt let him wrap you around his little finger in getting too close!,
either way i wish you good luck!!!
and hope that whatever you do will work out!!
hope this helpd!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Hmmm...This is kinda odd!!
I think it soulds like he could live in an other country or have a partner.
Could explain the late nite calls.
I really don't think hes being honset with u forget him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): I think he is nervous or scared to meet you because he probably really likes you and doesn't want to be a let down or anything. I sure would be. He needs to muster up his courage to meet you. Give him a chance but don't revolve your life around him, give other guys opportunities too, put some pressure on him, tell him other guys are interested but don't make it so obvious, it might push him to act if he is actually interested.
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 he isn't a "real" guy to you yet in the fact that you two haven't even met each other in person! stop putting your life on hold for this dude! he doesn't seem to be putting aside so much time to see you, so keep your pride and date around. see him only if it is convenient for you. don't move on, but don't wait around either. good luck!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Darling, why are you bothering with this guy at all?
He does not have the gallentry to call you in advance to say he cannot make a date. Does that not tell you something? This guy is unreliable, Period. If I was you hun I would look for a nice young man away from the computer and forget about this guy. On the other hand if you do want to meet a guy online, then join a reputable dating site.
I met my fella from Smooch.com nearly a year ago and we are very happy, so all is not lost. Be careful there are predators out there, so date with extreme safety.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (12 August 2008):
 woahhh long story! lol
anyways, it sounds like this guy maybe either playing you around or just really shy about meeting you
As you've never actually met him you don't know if he actually looks like/is like the person online (unless you've seen him on cam)
It's quite unsafe meeting someone off the internet so i'd advice to do a double date where you bring a friend and so does he and also that way if he is shy then he shouldn't feel as shy if he's with someone for support
If you arrange this and he STILL doesn't show then try to forget about him
You can meet so many other nice boys...........not on the internet
hope i've helped
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