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writes: Is 20 guys a lot for a girl to sleep with before they are 23 years old? Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (25 June 2006):
 Why are you asking for other people's opinions on this one? Do you not have enough faith in your own?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): There is no yes or no answer to that question.
20 can be a huge amount to one person, but low for another.
It all depends on your own view about sex, and your own view about women.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (25 June 2006):
 Hey There Babe
Well babe this is a tricky one... you didn't give us alot to go on here did you really so not sure if my advice will be any good but will try for you ok :o) this all depends how your looking at it if the girl your talking about is your girlfriend she must of told you the reason she slept with these guys from her past whether they were one nighters which 99% of the time don't emotionally mean anything just physical attraction or whether she actually loved everyone of them? i mean in theory if she had one nighters and they ment nothing then my question would be maybe she enjoys sex as an act you know the physical side of it indicating a high sex drive then no there is nothing wrong with that asumming all her encounters were safe and protected u know but maybe she could find other ways of feeding her high sex drive, but on the other hand if she loved each one of them, i would question how easily and quickly she gives away her feelings emotions and heart this indicates maybe slight emotional insecuries where she feels like she has to be constantly feeling love... i mean the number of 20 seems quite high for someone of just 23? i mean are you truely sure this girl has actually slept with 20 guys or is she maybe slightly bragging to prove to you that she has vast experience in the bedroom?
I hope my advice was of some help to you sweetie :o) good luck ok... If you ever need someone to talk to or just a shoulder to cry on or maybe a little more advice, truely i'm always here for you ok :o)
You Take Care Babe And Good Luck X
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (25 June 2006):
 Yes, it is quite alot and if you've had unprotected sex with her, I would recommend you get checked out for STD's immediately.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 June 2006):
 There's not a lot to go on here. When did she become sexually active? Age 11? Sixteen? Twenty one?
Was she serially-monogamous, or was she having 20 one-night stands? Does she have self-esteem issues and think every one was a One True Love, or was she just sleeping around?
In general, you always need to look at the whole person and their history before you can draw any conclusions. As to whether it sounds like a lot of guys to me personally, yes, maybe it does... unless she's been sexually active from a young age.
The real question is -- and I'm surmising you're asking about a girl you're seeing -- how do YOU feel about it? You either need to accept that that is her history and learn to live with the fact, or you need to admit you can't, and move on to someone else.
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