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41-50,
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writes:i found out the man i was seeing had another woman and i finished wish him because he wouldn't leave her again (he already left her for someone who then dumped him, twice, then got back with the first woman who he is now with still). I miss him so much and sometimes think i made a mistake and should have hung on incase, but then i hated the situation. He treated me well in some respects like taking me out and he said he loved me but would do things to 'push me away' when he was drunk. One day it would seem he was trying to finish with me and the next he was taking me out saying he did love me and that he wanted me to meet his kids. is he just confused? anyhow i finished it and a week later i changed my mobile number and unplugged my land line so i dont know if he has tried to contact me. I did this cus He dumped me once and then wanted me back and so kept texting me again a couple of weeks later. I eventually told him it was over b'cus the situation was not good for anyone and i deserved more but i miss him so much. He asked for time to sort his head out and i gave him a month or so. i have known him for ages and i feel like i have lost a friend. the split was messy, have no idea what he's thinking. i feel i'm to blame for letting him treat me like that but also very angry at him but sometimes i just wanna get intouch with him, but i know would never get back with him. i've been told he has another woman on the go again, but his friends have lied b4. how do i get over this? its been nearly 3 months now and i feel like i should be over this. i thought i was but saw him from a distance when i was out with the girls and i still got the same butterfly feeling. i dont think he saw me. he did not look happy at all and v tired. how do i get over this and feel positive bout my life again? things have got better but i feel like i've hit a stop point. I'm seeing a counsellor as well. Sorry if this was long winded. Any advice anyone?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 If you had stayed with him, just in case, you would have been "the second woman" forever. If you let a person do this to you, the message you send is "I will put up with such treatment". You did the right thing in dumping him.
I don't think he loved you, or any of the other women, for that matter. When you love someone, you don't want them to be hurt.
I understand your feelings, but, I think you should move on. You will find a good man.
Take care.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Hi,
I'm sorry that you have had to put up with this for such a long time but now is the time for you to get on and to meet your perfect guy. I'm sorry if this is a little harsh but this man clearly has no respect for any woman, there he is bouncing from one to the other and he has dragged you down to his level, you don't need to be with someone like that, I know it's hard to move on after a breakup but we all deserve a little love and respect!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Hi,
Blimey no wonder he looked tired shagging all those different women. I am sorry but the guy is a dog, and I can only feel pity for the poor cow that is shacked up with him at the moment.
I dont want to come accross as uncaring, but the best thing you did was get rid of him. He was no good for you at all, cant you see that.
Get on with your life and meet a man that is not a compulsive liar, and who could show you a future. Forget this one, he is not for you.
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