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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i am in major need of some help please. I need to know if my relationship is destroyed. I am very insecure. I have been with my bf for 5 months and love him so so much. I have talked to him about my insecurities and he says said that he will stick by me and help fight them. He is in a much better position than me. Girls throw themselves at him, all the guys love him, hes got a house with his two best mates, and hes at a good university studying to be a surgeon.I on the other hand failed university and am now in a dead end job (though i do plan to go back next year), dont get along with my family very well, am very inscure, not very intelligent, have lost all my friends through failing uni and dont really have much going for me.He goes out 3-4 times a week and gets drunk, so i pretend im going out with ll my 'mates' and send him 'drunken texts' when really im at home in my room.i also send texts to myslef of other guys to make him jealous and try and make him think im messing around. My lie is so boring really. We argue so much and i end up finishing him.please help me!1
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Hi,
Its not that your life is bad, but you are living a lie. No one likes a liar and eventually you will get found out. Your guilt is probably making you misserable.
Right!! so your first course of action should be to get on top of things again. Find another job. Maybe something that will get you mixing with the public like a bar or a resturant. You will make new friends and be working some evenings so you will be busy and not have to lie.
Second! how can you say you are not very intelligent. You got into Uni didnt you. Ok so you failed that time, thats not the end of the world. Have another go. Do you know how many kids would love that oportunity?.
Third! your mates, what kind of friends are they to give up on you, sorry you are well rid, and they are not mates.
So its up to you really, are you going to do something positive with your life and keep that man, or are you going to push the poor sod away and carry on feeling sorry for yourself.
I hope you will read this get angry with me for telling you off, and then think about it.
XX Best of luck sweet, you can do it.
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