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*uckycloud
writes:He's liked me for 6 months already. He once asked me to be his girlfriend. But I was not ready and I need to think carefully, I asked him to wait for me in 1 month. Actually I fell for him already, I'm just not ready for a relationship, to be called bf-gf. Maybe I think too much, abt us, and worry too much if we can last, and many many complicated and non-sense things in my head ... I know I shouldnt be like that, but it's just my nature and I cant help.Btw, I still agreed to go 4 a movie with him next month, and I also asked him to take me to another movie that I really like. We both set the plan and I'm really looking forward to it. As well as my birthday party planning coming ...I allowed him to hug me, and I like it we he held me in his arms. I feel like I can lean on him and he said "sure". I asked if he could be there for me when I'm alone and need someone to be with, he said "yes". He said he would do everything for my smile and he would never want to hurt me or make me cry. So I know that I fell for him too deeply now, that I trust him, and I want to count on him. And I'm ready to say "Yes".Suddenly that night he said he's not happy as he used to be, that we r too different, and we cant fit each other well, and we wont be happy together in the future. He said that I shouldnt like him, because he's not any good. He told me to let him go and I can find better guy for me. He said that I didnt do anything wrong, just that he's sad. He cried a lot. and didnt know what to say to me.I asked if he doesnt like me anymore, or he's not happy with me, and he really really wants to leave me? [so I would let him go ...] but he said he doesnt know.*note:is these things happened once b4 when he cant decide if he can wait 4 me 4ever [at that time I didnt ask him 4 1month and refused to give him a hug] [after 4 days he came to see me, said sorry and said that he still wants to be with me, and we hugged 4 the first time] [I really missed him and I cried a lot during those 4 days]Back to that night, he still walked me home, and lightened up the dark way for me as the very moment I started to fall into him, for his care on me.He's so nice, so sweet, with me only.I dont know why he had to say those things, while he cried even more than I did. Yup we were both crying. And I dont know why we both like each other, and he agreed to wait 4 my answer, and we made some plans in the near future together, but he said those things.I cant stand to see him crying. Because I know my heart already belongs to him. And actually I felt like we r already a couple!So I do feel like we broke up. And 4 sure I dont want to lose him.But as I said, if he really wants to leave me to be happier, I would let him go, and always wish him happy. He knows that ...I did google many page but I cant find any situation as mine. So I need help!!!!Yes I know that I should be strong now and no-contact to him, give him time and space. I am doing all these things. But I just care and want to know what really IS in Guys' minds.Thanks a lotttttttttt!
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reader, luckycloud +, writes (16 June 2011):
luckycloud is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answers :)1. I cant tell I'll be better off with or without him. Because no one knows the future. but RIGHT NOW, I want to be with him!2. he knows that I want to be with him! he knows that I like him too! and he knows that im just scared of being hurt. I was opened up from the beginning abt my insecurity. I told him many times already and I thought we r all clear about these. :(I dont contact with him cause at the very last minute when he said "I dont know" I said that I'll leave him time to think. So this could be the time 4 him to make up his mind. Im just afraid that he's not interested in me anymore. While I dont wanna lose him. :(
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Ask yourself this question, are you better off with or WITHOUT this man as your love interest?
If you KNOW you would be better off..tell him.
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