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writes: Why is he doing this? I broke up with my ex a month ago, but he has already added lots of friends to his myspace that are girls and adds lots of pictures of him with girls to his other website. I know I shouldn't look at it but it hurts me terribly and I can't help it. He has been contacting me so much since the breakup and I ignore most of it, but finally tonight I was so irritated about all the other times he contacted me-the last being 2 days ago, that I yelled at him to leave me alone and at least have the decency not to put pictures of him with girls up. He asked why I care now, which is a good point. So, I texted him and said that I didn't want to tell him, but with him doing everything he is doing and disregarding my feelings, I told him that I was dating one of my exes and that I'm truly happy again and that I pray he can change and that all goes well for him. I'm seeing one of my exes, but it's more on the level of friends right now since he knows I just broke up. Anyway, my recent ex then texted me saying how much he loves me and that he wants to fly me to him next weekend so we can talk. I didn't respond because he is bad for me and I truly want to be done with him. I guess my question is why is he doing what he is doing regarding the girls? I know I was probably wrong to tell him that I'm kinda seeing my ex, but are we just trying to hurt one another? How do I move on without being tempted to worry about who he will be with next? Why does it bother me so much when I know he never treated me right anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): To me, it sounds like he wasn't trying to make you jealous, but was trying to get over you by seeing other women. And that obviously hasn't worked because he is contacting you now. He can't get over you because he cares for you, and he was adding all of those women to myspace because he was hoping that they might grant him the happiness that he could no longer have because you were no longer in his life. I could be wrong, but i think you should talk to him one-on-one. And if he rejects you and makes you feel like a fool, then you have a clear image in your head and you can then decide what to do next.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 You two are done with each other. You even admitted that you're seeing an ex "friend level or not". You're the one who ended it with him, but you find it to be a disregard to your feelings if he posts pictures of other girls on his myspace which you said you shouldn't have been looking at in the first place.
This is a form of controlling behavior. Worrying about what's going on after the fact. You have to come to a realization that what he does now is his business, and you have no more right to decide what he needs to do and what he does not.
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reader, Rainbows  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 u r feeling this way coz he was also ur friend, not just ur lover, and obviously u r jealous and so is he. maybe, he just posted all that for 'YOU' to see. he knew u r bound to evesdrop and he wants to hurt u for hurting him. Mostly, we women get very possessive to the point of obsession and we demand and expect way beyond reality. maybe thts y u r having problems with him and you feel he is not good for u or doesnt care for u. if u r so tempted and worried to find out about his next move with someone else, u should talk to him frankly and tell him how u feel about him and his negligence hurts u. no use mudslinging each other...talk and work it out...if talking only leads to argument, then u both need a break for sometime...dont chase him, try to give space for a week atleast and then u'll calm down to think more clearly and openly....Good Luck! dont worry, b happy!
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 heyhe just want to make you jealous and make you think that he moved on and by telling him that i am 100% it made him soo happy that you cared to look over myspace .so i say leave him alone and stop thinking about him and maybe he will just leave you alone , he is trying in every way to make you jelous so don't be (or at least don't show that you are). because he will see that his plan is working anyways good luck byeXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Well if he didn't treat you right to begin with then just forget about him. And even if he did add girls to his myspace on the pretense of "making you jealous" that is not totally likely. Guys are different from girls. Usually guys who act that way might be trying to make you jealous but take what he is doing more seriously. Guys don't just put up pictures to make you jealous. Chances are he is either trying to hook up with these girls or straight up hooking up with these girls if they let him. That's a fact. And he is certainly not doing that to make you jealous. He is obviously very hormonal and is thinking with his penis. So don't justify his actions on the pretense that he is only doing that to make you jealous. The ONLY reason he is hanging out with these girls is because he is horny. The only difference is that he is being flashy about it by putting up pictures where you can see them. He sounds like bad news. And I get the feeling he is a cheating type. Be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): To me, it seems like he is just trying to make you feel jealous by posting those pictures online.It seems like he is really enjoying the 'freedom' of being single. Don't let some guy who would disregard your feelings like that back into your life. He doesn't seem to have much respect for you at the moment. Maybe if he really loved you then he wouldn't feel the need to hang around girls so much immediately after your break-up. In regards to your question about how to move on without worrying who he will be next - just look at the guy! He is trying to make you jealous. He is not geniune. No one needs someone like that. Go out, have fun and let time heal.
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