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Trying to figure out what it is...

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Question - (2 November 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 2 November 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *ggie2485 writes:

I need to know something. Is it normal to have a slight pain when you are, well needless to say, turned on. I'm asking cause I have been getting this slight pain inside when my fiance and I get ready to make love. It started a couple months after I had my youngest daughter last year. And I am wondering if that is normal.. Cause sometimes during sex it hurts sometimes to do anything and we have to quit. I'm not sure what to do cause there have been times when it hurts me so much that I have came to tears cause of the pain from having sex.....

Any ideas?

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A female reader, mystiquek United States +, writes (2 November 2010):

mystiquek agony auntI've had 2 children, and I've never experienced anything like this. Rather than wonder about it and ask total strangers, don't you think its time to see an OB/GYN and let him examine you? That way you will know, and won't have to worry about it. Information from total strangers might be nice, but its not going to tell you what is wrong with you. Only a physical examination will really let you know what's going on. Please do this for yourself.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (2 November 2010):

natasia agony auntI think that the more children one has, the more careful one has to be about sex, because every pregnancy and delivery changes things, and can make things painful.

The only pain I know of that you might feel is if your husband somehow touches your uterus/cervix - if you are at such an angle that he is pushing against that. That can be excruciatingly painful, and after childbirth things inside you are a bit rearranged, and it is much easier to accidentally do this. You may have some degree of prolapse, either from the front or rear of the vaginal wall, and this will also mean that you could occasionally be taken at the odd angle and things could be hurt.

However, I don't think you should be feeling a pain when you start to feel aroused. And I don't think sex should be so painful that you have to stop - it should just be a case of changing position.

I don't want to alarm you as you are very young and I'm sure it's nothing, but I think you should go to your doctor as she/he will be able to examine you and find out what is what.

All I know for sure is that after each child, you are a different person inside, unfortunately. People worry about hurting virgins on their first time, but it is much easier to accidentally hurt a woman who has given birth to children, I think.

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