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I love my boyfriend but if he doesn't meet me when he is supposed to i get
paranoid and think he is cheating on me or doesn't love me no more and has
finished with me. Do i need to break up with him or do i need to sort out my
trust issues?
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reader, dodgeman  +, writes (4 November 2007):
I am the same as you. I have been with my girlfriend for 11 months now. everytime she says to me shes going out to a party or going on holiday with friends i get paranoid. I love my girlfriend with all my heart, shes helped me through bad times. but i still get paranoid. I also worry when she speaks to other blokes.
But at the end of the day. if you do love him, talk to him, but sit down together and talk about things. (i have tried it with my girl and i felt so much closer and happier.
But i will say this Dont go looking for trouble because it causes trouble. Let trouble come to you and when it happens deal with it the right way.
I wish you the best of luck and happyness. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): I feel the exact same way like if he says he will call me at 7 and he doesnt call to like 7:30 for that half and hour i will think he is cheating and then i get mad a frustrated and leave him angry messages.i dont mean to and then later i feel really bad and you can tell he gets mad and god bless him for understanding that i have never had trust in anyone so he puts up with me but im pretty sure he wont for longer and whenever i say you are going to leave me he says so very sweetly im not going anywhere i love you and i will never leave you.
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reader, Jackie +, writes (3 November 2005):
I have the same problem with my boyfriend, but what i come to find is that no body is perfect but when you love someone you must have faith in that person until they betray you! The trust should be there until he/she has proven that they can't be! The key to sloving your issue lies with in yourself, ask your self do you trust him to go and get food at the store and that you know that's what he's doing, or say he won't burn your house down, do you trust he won't? It all comes down to if you have minor trust issues with him or if you are afraid of what you might actually do if you're put into a sittuation that revole into him not trusting you! Think for a moment, if he cares about you he will understand your delema with what he is doing, talk to him and explain your feelings on certain situations that he might be doing, and if he has respect for your feelings he will understand it and try to be considerit of them also. I wish you the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2005): If this is a problem for you and he’s always being late when he’s supposed to be meeting you, maybe you should bring this up to him how you feel, or maybe you just tell him that it hurts you that he can never be on time and if he can’t make it or whatever give you a call or something or he could just tell you a later time. He may not be cheating on you, but may be busy???
I’m not quite sure on the whole situation, but don’t let him being late get you all confused and worked up thinking about odd things such as him cheating or you guys are through because hopefully he wouldn’t stay with you if he was doing either one. Just simply tell him how you feel when he’s late all the time and ask him if he cares to stop and tell you what’s really going on instead of just saying something to pacify you at the moment.
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