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writes:Ok, basically im in a long distance relationship, we have been together 5 months now, and i feel she is the one and know that she feels the sameBasically recently she has changed which group of people she hangs out with and this new group goes out gets drunk etc about once a week. I know im an overprotective person, but is there any hints on how it may be easier for me to trust her?Basically i trust her when she is sober, but she turns really flirty when she is drunk, and she has said she would dump me if i try to come to one of the partys because they are her group of mates, and i have accepted this as it would take me 4 hours to get to her house anyway.So as a summery here are my questionsIs there anyway i can ask her to stop going to these partys and getting drunk, (this is harder for me because she says she really enjoys it)Is there anyway that makes it easier for me to trust her?any other advice for keeping a long distance relationship going?Thanks
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (2 June 2009):
 In all honesty - I become alot more friendly/flirty when I am drunk. It's all about being more confident when you're drunk I think - probably nothing in this! My boyfriend is exactly the same, He trusts me .. but doesnt trust the people in the dancing around me .. and he doesnt like how I become really confident when I am drunk .. but I say to him "Why would I be with you If I just want to get drunk and see other guys?"
Just ask yuorself that question too - She's with you, relax!
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reader, iknowwhatyoufeel +, writes (30 May 2009):
Some thing different day. i dont know what to say but i known this i spend my life crying. He says at the min he is on the way home from a club alone yet i can hear the girl. for my own self respect I am ending it, if he ever rings.
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reader, lah mouw  +, writes (30 May 2009):
 Well, partying with her friends once every week seems pretty reasonable for a teen. At least she's not doing it for the whole weekend or something.
Basically there is no way for you to tell her to stop going to parties and getting drunk and what not- well there is but clearly she's not going to stop. Especially because it would be a selfish thing to ask her to stop doing something she enjoys to put YOU at ease of your insecurities. If you don't trust her then maybe that's a sign that she's not "the one"? One key ingredient to a relationship is trust.
Just let her have her fun, and maybe keep yourself busy with something else so you don't have to think about it.
But maybe letting her know that being all flirty with other people really isn't okay
sorry if that was kinda harsh.
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