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*issAnnonimus
writes:PLEASE HELP!!!!It will be four years this year that I'm with my current bf...in distance relationship.We've been madly in love since we met last fall I was supposed to move to his country and continue university there but since we didn’t manage to do that, we blamed each other, argued a lot and at the end broke up.Omg that was the worst period in my life! I also felt so bad that guy that was swearing that he would move mountains for me let me go just like that! Our problem was distance, and I deeply think that if u r guy n say u love girl as much as u say u can fix that? Do you think I’m crazy for thinking that? Cause he has flat and a good job, and I’m still student but if tables were turned I know that we’d be long ago on one spot happy :(Short after that we made up, because we couldn’t be without each other and he promised he’d do anything if I come back to him and how he'll fix situation but it’s been a while and nothing is happening! I'm getting nervous cause soon I'll have to send documents to faculties from there.He told me that it’s my job to move to his country cause he bought a flat and now it’s my turn.Also, what concerns me is that I catch him often looking at pics when he was younger and partying all the time n vacationing with his friends. Also he bought a house in building next to his friends, he gave them key of his house n not to me???Like u don’t need it u r not here! : He's all the time hanging out with one immature friend of his and told me how he wants to go on vacation with him this year! Do you think that’s normal?He’ll be 27 this year and I’m much younger and don’t have the need to party as much and go on vacations with my friends!And the problem with him going on vacation with that friend is not that I don’t trust him, I dome just can’t believe that he still has the need 4 that: he sees him all the time and also we may need extra money 4 moving :(Few days ago, when I was with him, he bought a game and started playing it while I was there, even though I just came 2 weeks and we don’t have luxury like other couples to be all the time together :(I told him what I think, and he said it’s not like that, how I’m over thinking, how he needs friends and his space :O but still wants me to move in!I mean on one side I know how much he loves me and he is very serious with some things, has a good job and bought his own flat but I often feel I m more mature and I get scared that when I move he ll be all the time with his friend and going on vacations n leaving me alone :(So what do u think? I'm veryyyy good with giving advices to other people but I can never help myself...I feel like exploding and just can’t take this distance anymore but I love him soooo much and I would do anything 4 him! I'm such a good gf to him, I know he's more than satisfied with me, so what am I doing wrong? :(Every time he sees me falling apart on airports-but does nothing....and my strength is leaving me :( And even though I love them I have sooo much hate 4 him, cause I feel he could've fixed our problem but he isn’t doing it cause he s immature n not ready to be as serious as I am...
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Question; If you can't trust him then what are you doing wasting your time?
A relationship cannot exist without trust.
Walk away and find someone else.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 He does not love you and is not in love with you. He treat his friends as priority and that won't change even if you move in with him. You will find yourself competing for attention. When things go wrong you will be held responsible because you had been igonring all the signs that he doesn't care about you. He's not going on vacation with you, he does not give you the keys, doesn't help you in the airport. He is spending money where it doesn't concern you. You are building this relationship from an idealized version of him. To be really cruel and ruthless he is not letting you go and telling you this is how relationships should be. No, you deserve a gentleman who takes you out and protects your feelings.
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