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writes:My boyfriend really really wants anal sex from me, but every time we try, I can't follow through because it hurts SO much. He hasn't even gotten his cock all the way in yet. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to make this better? He's done it before, and I really want to do it for him because he likes it a lot.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (27 September 2010):
Instead of asking how to make it easiler and possible to achieve; the real question is why does he keep asking for something he knows hurts you and why do you put up with it? What about what you like and need? If he's done it before and liked it, why didn't he stay with the one who enjoyed or could at least tolerate anal violation? If he and his past partners robbed banks or convenience stores and liked it, does that obligate you to do it also!
I personaly like Tisha's responce best: if he's so into anal, you need to strap on one of those dildo's and tell him from now on the one on the recieving end of anal sex is going to be him!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 September 2010):
 My suggestioni is for him to experience anal penetration himself, with a dildo, so he can understand what the process feels like. It sounds to me that he is rushing you and doesn't really know what he's doing.
Remember the anus isn't designed for sex, as the vagina is, so it must be slowly, carefully and gently prepared through relaxation and dilation. When he has it done to him, he'll understand better, I think.
Good luck!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 I would recommend using a lot more lubrication. Use a water based lubrication and make him use a condom.
Ask him to take it slow and easy on you until you get use to the feeling.
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reader, Ven +, writes (27 September 2010):
Read a guide like this one:
http://www.freddyandeddy.com/howto/howtoanalsex.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Volumes have been written on this, and I suggest that you visit several web sites. I've been a fan of anal sex since college (it's been a while sense then!). Here's my experience.The woman has to be eager, excited and relaxed. I find that a woman who has already cum once is in a better place to be able to relax her sphincter. (You have two, but the second one in involuntary, and you can't control it).The woman has to trust the man deeply. Wanting anal for his pleasure is not enough. She can't have any fear of him treating her right. She has to know down deep that if she asks him to stop, he's stopping.Play with the anus during other sex play. The guy can finger your ass while he's licking you. Anal stimulation should be woven into your play, and not reserved for when he's going to stick his dick in there.Lube is critical until your a seasoned pro. My wife and I can have anal sex without it, but usually use a liberal amount. Still, sometimes we'll be traveling and getting to it, and I'll be able to slide in and she'll be very relaxed. While it's great, don't assume you're going to be there for quite a while. Buy some good lube, do your research on line. KY Jelly has been my favorite, but some people HATE it, so to each his own.He needs to go slow, you need to learn to breath and instruct him. I prefer a woman who talks while I'll having anal with her. I need to know she wants me to do her, and that it feels good. If you want to accelerate his orgasm, start talking to him about where he is and what he's doing!The woman can have huge G spot orgasms, be ready to do what she says as she's coming.Pull out slowly and let her rest. Having a wet wipe to clean up is nice. There may be a lot of lube that needs to be wiped up.Poop has never been a problem, nor has there been any side effects from anal - other than in the beginning her bottom would be tender for a day. Later this went down to a few hours or not at all.Take your time- it's NOT a race, but a journey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): well, why do you think he should be putting things up your butt?
if he's done it before, then he knows to get some astro glide or something.
not as many are doin it as the public would have you think. some like it. most don't and consider it degrading.
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