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writes:hi. ive recently moved from the US to the UK and i started school just a while ago. when i got to school on my first day everyone was friendly and nice however after school the most popular girl in school overheard my mum complaining about how there were hardly any beuaty pageants to compete in, like the onces i had in the US. When i went back to school hardly anyone talked to me nicely or even looked at me nicely and everytime i walked past this popular and her friends they would laugh and point and say things like "off to a beauty contest? stuck up cow" the only person who is nice to me is the girl's boyfriend and he is really really nice to me, but it's almost as if he's unaware of what his girlfriend's been saying. Now school is over i still get looked at by the pupils that live in my area (includin the girl) i can't go to my parents because all they say is "ignore them"...i didnt want to take part in most of those beauty pageants anyway! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): I would warn your mother to not say anything about the diffrence between USA and UK, as people will pick it up on it, adult or kids. If you had compete in beauty pagents, be proud of it. If you haven't then just say so if you overhear anyone bitching. This will pass, make some good freinds and don't care about the popular girls.
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 try to ignore all the nasty comments about this jealous "popular" girl.
Ask for help to the boyfriend so he can introduce you to society. Having the opportunity to present yourself and show everyone how amazing you are.
DOnt let your self confidence lower with this girl. Is not worth it. The more you try to fit in and get everyone to liked you the less you will. Do not care what other people think just be yourself, be confident, smile, let them see you ignore the comments, that you dont care. They will notice and eventually they will want to be by your side.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Forgot to say, why don't you ask the boyfriend to tell the girl it was all a misunderstanding....him being nice to you can play to your advantage....you can get him to talk to the girl and maybe get her to come around.
Maybe though you don't want to friends with these people again, so then you will have to find new friends..... though I'm sure lots of people will want to be your friend...you sound like a nice person.
XD
good luck (again lol x)
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (1 August 2008):
 that girl is probably just jelous of the fact that you have had the chance to be in a beauty pagent, also as there is a lack of them here, people only see the steriotypical veiw of beauty pagent girls, anorexic thin stuck up little rich girls, who has a hissy if they loose.
Just try your best to ignore them, maybe join some clubs when you get back to school like a sewing club seeing as you probably like fashion?
Feel free to message me anytime =]
Hope this helps
love and hugs,
tasha xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 August 2008):
Oh sweetie, I'm sorry it's started like this.
Yes, here in the UK we think Beauty pagents are not good. However, jsut because one so called Popular girl has made comments it doesn't mean everyone hates you.
Why not just go over to someone who lives in your area and ask them if they have started homework, could tell you where they got their top from etc. I am sure 90% don't care what that horrible girl thinks, but may have heard rumours that you think you're an amazingly beautiful model, and are stuck up.
Take a chance and pay someone a compliment to start a conversation, what is the worst thing that could happen? If you have no friends at the moment then all you can do is either make some or stay the same.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, LoveJoy +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Well I suggest telling your parents that its too hard to just ignore them and that you want to be taken seriously, not ignored. When you recieve these comments just smile and say thanks, because bullies don't like it when they aren't getting the reaction they want, also talk to the boy about it he may be able to help you...
Good Luck
Dont worry about it too much
x LoveJoy x
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reader, saltwater +, writes (1 August 2008):
Don't be put off by these kids.
The UK does have some horrible teenagers...though it does have some of the friendliest.
How sarcastic are they towards you? Usually it may not last long, and when you go back after summer it may all be forgotten about; kids usually forget things like this.
If however they don't forget, try to talk to them and say it was a misunderstanding -- joke about it -- tell these kids that you don't want to be in a pageant, you said so yourself!
If it is serious i.e. akin to bullying; then you should tell a female teacher what is happening.
Though given that they were nice to you in the first place, I am pretty sure that will eventually come around to you again; you just need to pursuade them that you don't want to be in pageant -- just like you told us here.
If these kids really didn't like you they would have been nasty to you from the start....so the situation is repairable!
Good luck.
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