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writes:Okay well i have this BIG problem Its really complicated and hard to explain but its a tricky love triangle basically.Well i'll start from the beginning... Me and my Best friend work at the same place, and theres this guy at work i REALLY like and most people in work know i like him, so his best friend messages me one day saying .. 'the guy you like in work really likes you back and would love to go out with you' i was really happy about this and told his friend how much i liked him and his friend said that she was going to try and hook us up .. i showed my best friend the messages and she was like 'oh wow.. he likes you back thats sooo cool you should so go out with him'sooo.. couple of days ago everyone from work went out for drinks because it was pay day, it was a really good night, but at the end of it .. just as me and my best friend were leaving... some guy (also from work) comes up to me and says.. i know ..so i said to him 'know what?' and he says 'i know you like me' i was really puzzled and told him the real person i liked at work and this other guy (who happens to be 20 years older than me and i have mentioned reminds me of my father)put his head down walked away and just started apologizing so many times so then the guy i liked best friend comes along and says why did you tell S (the olda guy) you dont like him when you do, and i had to explain to her that she had got it completely wrong and it wasnt S i liked it was B... at this point she had felt really bad because she was also trying to set B (the guy i liked) with my best friend... and it turns out that he had faniced my best friend all along and not me and he told my best friend that night that he liked her and she told him that i liked him :( and he said he likes her more ... but my Best friend has always told me how she didnt like B because she said she didnt like his race, the way he looks or the way he acts... HOWEVER when she found out he fancies her now she reckons she really likes him even though shes into this other guy she knows aswell, and i feel really embarassed because everyone at work now knows that the guy i really like likes my best friend instead and i feel really bad about myself.. my Best friends alot prettier and im not jealous of her (i really do love her to bits) its just i sort of feel like shes rubbing salt into the wounds abit because she doesnt stop going on about it and now the guy i like doesnt even look at me in work anymore even though we used to talk all the time , and i think he thinks that im stopping my best friend from going out with him but its not like that its because she doesnt know who to choose out of him or this otha guy...... i just feel really shamed in work and really low about myself and dont know what to do....i know it sounds like school problems but im really depressd about this .. i know i'll eventually get over it but i dont know who else to tell (can't exactly tell my best friend) :( please help xx
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reader, Miamine +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Depression is a bad word, your not depressed.. anyway..
So sorry for the confusion and embarrasment you are suffering.. in the end people will forget all about it and things will get back to normal again. I would leave it and say nothing to anyone.. unless your friends boasting is really upsetting you, and then you can tell her to knock it off because you feel foolish and it reminds you of your embarrasment...
These things happen in life, the thing to do is to pretend nothing has happened, lift your head high, smile at everyone and continue as before..
Don't let them see the hurt, just be your same happy, charming self.. all this will pass in time.. :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Sorry I saw your post only now, some times a post will just sort of sleep away among the others...
Look, I know now you are embarassed and feel this is an awkward situation, but don't blow things out of proportions ok ? It wasall a sillly misunderstanding and you haven't done anything wrong or undignified.
It's not a crime or a shameto like a guy at work and,alas, at times our preference is not requited- so be it. It does not mean that you are less than your friend, just that tastes are diffferent, next moment you may find out someone who likes you better ( and possibly this time out of your work environment ! ).
As for your best friend and the guy you fancy,he'll probably get tired to wait that she makes up her mind, and everything will be back to normal.
In the meantime,just keep your cool, don't bother about "he thinks that she thinks that I think "... don't let this tempest in a teapot ruin your mood or affect your job performance.
It was just a disappointment,it sucks but you'll get over it.
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