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writes: i broke up with my boyfriend 7month ago. i met another man. he is nice but 2 months after that i met up with my ex-boyfriend and we have been having sex ever scence. my love for him is stronger now then before and i am scared to loose him. the reason we broke up is my daughter and my ex-boyfriend don't see eye to eye. i love them both but didn't want to disappoint my daughter.i love having sex with my ex,he is big to down there and my new boyfriend is very small,and i have not been with him in 4 months but he tells me he don't want to be alone and he loves me. i don't want to hurt my daughter,my new boyfriend or my ex-boyfrien. i don't know what to do,help please
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Hi there, I think I'll begin by asking, what is it that wouldmake you happy? Your daughter if she is grown yet, but she will find someone who makes her happy, I don't think she would drop someone she cared for because you did not like him, you think? The gentleman you are not completely compatible with should be told immediately, you do him no favors by stringing him along with false hope. Tell him as gentlely as possible and let him find someone that will make him happy. You are the one who should be in control of which way your life is directed. Let your daughter know that you would appreciate it if she respected your choice, as you would eventually respect hers. This is your life and you will only have one, focus on the best choice for yourself, not running around trying to make sure that everyone else is happy while you are in misery or very close to it. Not a good thing. Take care.
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reader, HonestyAunt  +, writes (21 January 2009):
What you can't do is stay with the guy you're not having sex with. Of course he tells you he doesn't want to be alone and loves you - this is probably the truth, or at least he feels it is. But you've only been together for a few months, he will eventually feel better and move on, and what you are doing to him is very unfair. He says he loves you because he believes the situation is rather different to the reality.
Have you talked to your daughter about why she dislikes your boyfriend so much? She might have genuine concerns for you, justified or not. At the end of the day it has to be your decision who you go out with. But if you hide it from her, she will 100% absolutely find out at some point and you're not going to have any control over that situation. The fall out from that will be far worse than if you sit her down, tell her you understand her concerns but this is your decision to make and you're not going to lie to her. She will probably get angry and upset in the short term, but if you let her discover the lie herself it will be far longer lasting.
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