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writes:Alright my best friend and i ahve been friends for a while now and i have recently fallen in love with her. She knows that i love her, because i tell her all the time. I cant stop thinking about her and even when i sleep i literally dreams about her. They're not sexual dreams but dreams of me and her being together and happy. I just waished i knew how to ask her out and not ruin our relationship. Because i honestly think her and i are soul mates. We like the same music, we both admire art, we both love to be with each other, we both love to sit around and talk to each other, and when we aren't together we are always talking on the phone or texting. I guess what im asking is how do i ask her out without ruining things between us in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks. i really appreciate it. if you dont mind i would like to update you on the situation from time to time. i would o anything to be with her, even if it means that i have to almost lose her. i love her just that damn much.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 It all depends on how much it is worth. Is she the absolute perfect woman for you? Would she make you really happy? It really depends on how much you want the object of desire. The thing is at least now she knows right? So you've done the right thing and you can rest assure that it's open. But the interesting thing is she hasn't completly cut you off. I think this means she has feelings for you. Either as your friend or as a potential lover.
If I were in your situation I would lay of her a bit don't call her so much let it slack off a bit and let her be stuck with that guy for a while and maybe she will start to wonder where you are or what is happening to you.
If not she will continue to be with him but if you can let her know how special she was to you and all that, say it to her face if you can, if not, do it over the phone. Dont send her texts or emails while she has a bf.
Lastly start hanging out with other girls and your friends more as your communication slows down with your love interest. If she comes back then just let her know you thought she was not interested even though you really liked her and you decided to cut her some slack for a while. Hopfully by this point she will talk more and possibly make a move I you handle it right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalright so i took your advice and i know it took me a while to get back to you but im here now. i told her how i felt and she said she pretty much already knew that because im so protective over her. things get better between us for a couple of weeks but then it all goes to crap after a few weeks. shes still with this idiot that no one likes including me. for the love of me i cant get her to realize exactly how i feel for her. its almost like she realizes it but doesn't want to acknowledge it. i recently moved over 180 miles away to find a job and nothing has changed. she says she has to balance us out but she sees him every day and she hasnt seen me in almost a month. we havent alked on the phone for more than 10 minutes because of her jealous boyfriend. so i guess i have another question for you. do you think im holding onto the wrong thing or should i keep trying to work it out and make her realize that i want to be with her and show her how shes supposed to be treated?????
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reader, Griffo +, writes (29 December 2009):
tell her exactly what you said here... then see what she thinks. its best to be honest mate.
if it dosent work out or she's not interested in a relationship just achnowledge that and and her feelings then continue being friends. never bring it up again though.
if it works out... congratulations!
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