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*roken casanova
writes:long story short, my ex and I still work together, broke up 10 months ago. recently we did the FWB thing and things (for me anyways) were AMAZING. she mentioned during our mutual breakup that shed be "open-minded" to us potentially re-dating down the road.Friday, she called me saying "she likes what we are doing but what would happen/how do we handle it if the other person starts dating"...monday rolls around and I am to stay over but she says "i have something to tel you"...she says "im seeing someone"...then backtracks and says she's "dating" and we need to stop what we are doing. she also tells our mutual friend how excited she is that she met someone.i know people break up and move on with other people, but almost 30yr old makes this decision to end what WE have over 2 dates in a weekend!?!?! 2 weeks later (today) her online dating profile is deleted and she's listed as "in a relationship" on facebook. I've found out that this guys is 36, fireman, blah blah blah. I can't help but feel angry, jealous, hurt, depressed, and like I didn't mean anything.I am so shocked she would be in a "relationship" after 2 weeks and RISK losing what we had for the FIRST good date (she admitted) she's had since we broke up.How do I move on? I am told I am a good looking guy with plenty to offer, (check out my pic and tell me your thoughts...i know i shouldnt ask, its a dark time for me) why haven't I wound a decent gf? wtf? so confused, and really hate to resort to asking people online about this but it is really bothering me, especially since I have to see the bitch at work.In addition...I HAVE deleted the facebook friend so I can't give myself anymore pain. also, leaving my job because of her is NOT an option...I look forward to your advice
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reader, broken casanova +, writes (12 April 2009):
broken casanova is verified as being by the original poster of the question i hate to admit it, but I snooped in my friends cell and saw some texts from my ex about me (because they are still good friends) in a nutshell, (and she knows the pain i am in right now) she said "me and the new bf should show up, thatd be funny"....she also said "take that for taking us off of face book lol" and "we will stay over next time"(i know that means they are sleeping together already because of that)
I just cant believe she is so 2faced saying "im always going to be here for you, and i am sorry how it went down" yet on the other hand she thinks it would be funny to show up and surprise me with her new bf!!!WTF?!?!?!?( i would imagine it is her way at getting back at me for me sleeping with other people after we broke up[she was really hurt by it but doesnt understand i did it to get over her!!!)
I have zero confidence right now and am completely depressed, everything i am doing doesnt seem to help me get over this.
I would love any more help guys, this is very rough....
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reader, Alisha09  +, writes (10 April 2009):
Oh my God i am exactly in the same situation i am dying inside. What did you do?? Please can you let me know. I cant see your profile it seems to have disappeared?
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reader, mariaxx +, writes (7 April 2009):
sorry you're hurting so much - it must be touch seeing this woman at work.I don't know what FWB means but i gather you started seein each other again.Do you know she only had 2 dates with this person? Perhaps that is true, some people just click quickly. It's natural that you are going to be upset and everything you are feeling is perfectly normal.I think all you can do is be a gracious and dignified about this as possible - she has met someone else and has made her choice, you are going to have to accept it. The feelings were obviously not mutual, sorry. That's probably painful to hear but if it was meant to be you would be together still. Accept that what you had was good, but it is in the past now and you must move on too.Swallow your pride, be civil, but don't let yourself be filled with hate and resentment - it won't make you happy and it's certainly not attractive.Why haven't you met anyone yet? Well it doesn't sound like you're over your ex at all, you are probably giving off (subconscious) signals to that effect and you probably wouldn't have been very receptive to any potential matches that have come along.Things will get better, just be patient, easier said than done i know. How about taking something new up? is there anything you've wanted to try but never got round to (sports/instrument/language)? or doing something for charity perhaps? It will help take your mind off this situation and will make you feel better too.Good luck x x
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