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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me almost a month ago and I have not been able to accept that yet. We had a big fight at first I tried to resist the anger but she kept on sayin rubbish and lastly I exploded this made the story turn upside down. I still love her and want her back, but I guess thats not possible as I ve tried to talk to her but in vein. I fear of one more thing. She had been talkin to this male friend of hers and I think they both might or have started seeing each other. I had a Physical relation also with my girlfriend and we had great sex now I feel this depression or some kind of anxiety when I think about some other guy havin sex with her. What shud I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): I know how you feel. My girlfriend slept with a guy she hardly knew on a night out and I saw them together afterwards. Its impossible to get an image out of your head and I think even if you tried again it'd break you up inside. Move on man, plenty of girls who can make you their number one.
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (9 May 2007):
Nope. Don't talk to her. Don't see her again, except when it is unavoidable in public, and when you do see her, be civil, polite, and friendly.
Being jealous of her new relationships is normal. You'll eventually stop caring about that. And if you do love her, the only thing that should matter to you is that she's happy. If she isn't happy, well there's nothing you can do for her because apparently you couldn't make her happy enough to be with you. You can't possibly love her enough to make her happy, when she insists on doing what she does.
And then there's the fact that it sounds like she was emotionally abusive, and if you checked, you'd probably find out that she has told lies about you to her "guy friends" implying or explicitly accusing you of abuse. If this is the case, what you have is a girl who is emotionally damaged and who needs more help than you can ever hope to give her.
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reader, michael hughes  +, writes (8 May 2007):
i feel that you should talk to her, if she doesnt want to know you or egnors you, she may well be with someone else. try and confront her about it. i feel that you have so many questions in your head and only she can answer them. still if she doent listen well i dont mean to be harsh but you should get on with your life and dont dwell on the past.
hope everything works out for you.
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reader, DKR +, writes (8 May 2007):
 Time is a healier my friend. Personally i never go back on a chapter in my life, perhapes you should try this. It is really tough, granted, and you may feel that you cannot life without her, but in order to carry on you must remind yourself of how you managed to get through life before you got together. Living without a lost love will grow easy with time. You don't have to accept the fact she broke up with you but unfortunatly you do have to live with it. Be strong, chin up and remember there's plenty fish left in the sea - easier said than done i know. Perhapes surrouding yourself with those who love you will help.
best of luck
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