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writes:My girlfriend says that I am "too devoted". Not exactly sure what that means. What is the best way to behave as a boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Yep, like everyone else said, "too devoted" means "clingy". You should concentrate on other hobbies and interests in your life. You should take some time away from her and pull back, which will have the desired effect of her wanting more of you.
Also, women LOVE guys with vision and ambition. Talk to her about what you want to do with your life. Think about what you want to do! Make your life SHINE, and she'll never accuse you of being "too devoted" again.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (3 June 2010):
 You're too clingy.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (3 June 2010):
 In addition to what CaringGuy said, she COULD also be not as serious about your relationship as you are. Should could be looking for more casual or unofficial where you may be more serious.
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reader, Braha +, writes (3 June 2010):
Excuse me for being a bit direct, but in my opinion, i think she is really saying something else.
She is saying that she feels you are being too possesive and jealous. That in turn might reveal that she is saying that you are stifling her (too much in her face).
In other she is being diplomatic and tactful by having chose words that will not sting you too deeply.
Basically she is saying (again, in my opinion of course), "Chill out and calm down, if this is how you'll be as a husband, I'm afraid it will make me feel like I'm in prison." Perhaps there is a need to do some self inspection, ie., "What can I do about my possible insecurity?"
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 June 2010):
I suspect she means a bit too clingy. Just step back a little, let her do her own thing and you do your own thing too. If it helps, ask her what she means and what you can do to make it better. Then she can tell you.
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