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writes: Help I think my friend is sleeping with a teacher, I feel responsible about doing something but I'm not sure what...I'm not just blindly accusing one of my teachers of sleeping with a pupil I really think they are because...1)I know she has a stupid SGC on him2) I know he has slept with other students as he got suspended (they were over 18)3)when ever I'm with her in the corridor they just stare at each other and he often winks and she winks back(in more than a friendly way)4)one time I went to get help with work and she was already in the room, she was talking but he silenced her really quickly and she went really really red, they were also sat very very close5)the other day she dropped in something about where he lived!!! Then realised and stopped (went red again)6)she is having sex with someone but won't tell anyone who, she says "well you don't know them anyway so it doesn't matter" 7)me and other people have seen her meeting him around the corner from school and getting in his car!!I don't want to tell onthem incase I have got the wrong end of the stick but should I anyway??
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reader, Braha  +, writes (3 June 2010):
It is unclear about where this is hapopening. If in a college, leave it alone but do tell your friend that he has a bad reputation and he is therefore going to leave her soon for the next victim. After he does, she will gain a bad rep also. She probably thinks that this is a victory to show off how interesting and fetching she is. You can only help her if she wants help.
If this is in a high school, and you don't want to tell on him, you should tell him that you over heard a couple of students discussing whether or not they should tell the administration on him. Undoubtedly, he will insist that you tell him the names of those you overheard.
Just walk away but turn and say, "Stop it, your job and your career are in danger. Good luck."
He deserves to be told on, because he already had a chance to stop interfering with young people's lives, yet he disregards those young ones and continues. Therefore, you should in turn disregard him, and get the word to the admistratrors without involving yourself (anonymously).
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reader, TimmD +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Unless you have 100% ironclad proof that this is taking place, you shouldn't do anything. Normally I'd say stay out of it no matter what, but teachers having sexual relationships with students is morally wrong. Officials should be notified but at the same time if you are wrong, this could ruin a teacher's life or career.
If you can prove it 100% without a doubt to an official such as the school administrator, than I say tell them. But otherwise there is nothing you can do.
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reader, Midge  +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Personally I think something needs to be done, but you have to take into consideration a teachers career if you have it wrong! So, you really need proof that this is taking place before you say anything to anyone. Being in the field of education, I have seen so many teachers careers destroyed because someone said something and got it wrong. There careers are never the same after that!
If you have any concerns, perhaps speak to one of your parents and let them make the decision of what should be done. If he has a previous conviction of sleeping with a child, then your parents may want to go and see the headmaster of the school and voice their concerns.
I could tell you what I would do, but ultimately, it is what you think is morally right! Everyones morals are different, so everyones decisions would be slightly different. Go speak to your parents or to an adult that you trust. They will surely make a good decision for you!
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