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30-35,
anonymous
writes:first off I'm gay.me and my boyfriend have dated for half a year. we try to have sex but we can't. the main problem is his size. when he starts it hurts and when he tries to go deeper I can't bear the pain. is there a way to help him get in? we tried several types of lube. nothing.its been getting him fustrated and mad at himself. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): You don't know how to relax yourself properly. You should practise and the easiest way is when you're in the shower put a lubed up finger there, and that way you'll get more used to things going there. Before you try to put him in you should always put lube up there as well as on him, and when putting lube up there move your finger around and get yourself more relaxed. If you just go for it then YES it will hurt! Take it slow. If he put it in, and it hurts then stop, wait a minute and then try again.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 Get him to massage your anus and then do one finger. From there, get him to do two for at least 10 minutes, try to stay relaxed. Use a fair amount of lube and get him to try soon after that. :)
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