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writes:Ok here is the thing. My name is Tommy I 25 my girlfriend maria is 23. We been together for almost 8 months. Things are almost perfect but latey all we do is fight. Please help me. I don't want to lose her. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Why do you fight? Most relationships that consist of constant conflict are usually broken when neither partner wishes to fix things. Take the initiative and talk about why you two fight so much. There is no doubt that such a conversation could lead to yet another argument so what I suggest is that when either of you raises your voice, stop the conversation and take a minute to breathe and when you both are ready, talk again until it is sorted.
An important factor in this is understanding. Make sure that when you are talking to her, you LISTEN to what she is saying and try to understand it. If you do not understand why she feels a certain way, simply ask. Try to compromise. Make sure she listens to YOU and why you feel a certain way about things.
There is nothing calm words cannot solve and if you are still together, focus on that bond, whatever it is that holds you two to this relationship which (I assume) is love.
I hope that helps.
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