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writes:hi, i seem to be getting myself into abit of a predicament. im starting to get feelings for a girl who already has a boyfriend. we get on really well and flirt with each other etc. she also stays round mine every now and then and we cuddle up in bed but nothing else. about a month ago we were drunk and almost ended up having sex but she pulled away and said she had a boyfriend who lives abroard although she told me she really wanted me. should i persue her?normally i would stop seeing her at this point as il start falling for her more and more, however shes goin through a really bad patch and im the only one who she feels she can talk to and i have been really looking after her.im going to be there for her no matter what because shes going to need help but the more i see her the more i want her and itl drive me crazy!any ideas??
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reader, Seven_Deadlies +, writes (1 May 2009):
 No you shouldn't try anything with her. Be there for her of course but set the boundries, as hard as that might be. She needs to know that you are her friend and will be there, but you will wait. So less of the cuddles. If she wants you as much as she says she does, and of course her boyfriend doesn't provide for her the way you do/will, then she would brake up with him. As hard as it mght be to resist, its better to be noble and I'm sure she would repsect that :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): well firstly, her boyfriend probably sees you cuddling up in bed as cheating...I think she really needs some1 right now. for the moment, but the friend she needs you to be, and do not let her act on her sexual needs during this time...as shes finding things hard, she may regret it, which could ruin things.After she's sorted, sit down and talk to her, explaining ur feelings and asking her about hers. If she says she has none, take it in and try to move on.If she says she has feelins, see if they're strong enough to act upon, then take things from there.good luck :)
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