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*otarosca
writes:Hi all,I have a friend who is in some financial difficulty. she called me telling me that she has finally gotten a job but needs some money to buy the uniform or she could lose the job. She told me how much it would cost. I transferred the money to her and wished her all the best. That we could talk in a week or two.She later sent a text saying that the cost of the uniform had gone up. I sent a text directing her to some budget shops where she could get a bargain. I asked her to let me know how things turn up. About 5 hours later, i didnt hear from her. So, i called her and left 2 missed calls as she didnt pick up the phone. 2 days later she hasn't returned the call. Because of her situation, It could be that she wants to call but does not have enough money to flash back or text. The last time we talked she said that she felt happy and comfortable whenever i call. I do not want to create the impression that because I gave her some money that she has to be pressurised to answer my calls. Yet, i am worried about how things went and would have been satisfied getting a text saying that she has started the job. I dont want her to miss this job and keep asking me for money. Why am i even thinking of her? We are just friends but i do like her and want the best for her. Having called twice, i think i should simply wait for her to call me back or get back to me. How do I do this without the irritating thought of her coming to my mind. Should i call one more time? If i call her one more time and she doesnt pick up the phone, i know i will feel very irritated. Pls help with some advice.
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reader, rotarosca +, writes (13 February 2010):
rotarosca is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again everyone. I will tread carefully.I was giving expecting nothing in return. I just remember when i was in need and people came to help me. Thanks again. cheers
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 I would think she would have wanted to thank you right away for getting the job. Why wouldn't she ask this mutual friend for money before you, or other people who have known her longer than 3 months? It's a bit bizarre to me, but it is your money, and you can do what you'd like with it. Just be aware that there are these types of scammers out there.
Best wishes to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): Thanks everyone. I just knew her for about 3 months through a friend. I called her and she said that she didn't have money to call back. We had a nice conversation. She says she has gotten the job but did not want to disturb me until she started. I wont be giving her any more money though. Thanks everone esp. goodguy11
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (12 February 2010):
Yes I kind of agree with Tisha1... how long have you known this "friend"? How did you meet her? What seems kind of a red flag is 1) you "transferred" the money... you didn't give it to her in person. So that sounds like she doesn't live near you. 2) she came back and said the cost went up - like she got this much out of you and was now trying to get more. When you didn't give it, she faded out.
It comes across like she was only interested in the money. A real friend would have been grateful and would definitely have called back.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 February 2010):
This sounds possibly like a love scammer; they befriend you on line and then start asking for money. Please look at your bank account to make sure it has not had any odd activity; protect your accounts and your financial details right away.
Please read these and see if your online friend might be a scammer.
http://www.hotscams.com/
http://www.419eater.com/
Please be very careful with your money and your financial information; there are thieves out there who are very creative.
Take care.
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (12 February 2010):
Well I know when I call some of my friends and they don't pick up it's because they are busy at the moment and forget to call back sometimes. It might be that she got the job and she couldn't take your call while on the job. Or maybe she just having a bad week and doesn't want to talk to anyone. So go ahead and call and if she doesn't answer leave a voicemail saying you want to know if she got the job and if everything is alright with her. I'm not sure how long you known her and close you two are as friends but it just seems like she's using you just to get some cash and then when she gets it she doesn't need you anymore. So I would be careful with her if she keeps asking for money. So call and leave a voicemail and see if she calls back if not then don't call again. Good luck to you.
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