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writes:Hi everyone.I need some advice and help on a situation I find myself in. I am very lucky in that I'm single and can enjoy eating out regularly; being a person of habit I got to certain places on certain days.Over the course of going to one particular restaurant I have started a rapport with a waitress. She is very friendly and talkative. Even when she's not my waitress shes comes over and talks to me and then sort of becomes my waitress for the remainder of the night. Its very strange scenario; each time I go to the restaurant its almost like going for mini first dates. I have found out she is studying to be vet, is very intelligent and easy to talk to. She is forth rite and very independent. Qualities that I find very attractive. Shes is very touchy with me, casually touching my shoulders and arms when talking. I'm trying not to read too much into this but she doesn't do it to other customers. In fact the other night she actually came and sat with me at my table and talked with me. I did express my concern that she might get into trouble for doing this but she didn't seem to mind. I think shes likes me - but here's the rub she has a boyfriend, whom shes did refer to and I quote 'an annoying git...'. What do I make of a statement like that??!!??I'm the sort of guy who stays well away from situations like this normally. Its not how I operate. I respect the boundaries of peoples relationships. I'm also concerned about her conduct, being flirty with me while seeing some one else. However I really do like her a lot and want to get to know her more. So my questions are:1) Should I ask her out/ for her number?2) How do I go about doing this?3) Or should I leave well alone altogether?
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reader, jc82  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 If you feel confident enough, give her your number, and tell her to use it if she finds herself single again in the near future. This way, the ball is in her court, and you aren't really over stepping boundaries, but you are letting her know you are interested. Its impossible to know what her situation with her boyfriend really is, maybe she will jump at the chance to be with you, or maybe she's just idly complaining about him. You never know until you try... Good luck!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 When she says...
I think shes likes me - but here's the rub she has a boyfriend, whom shes did refer to and I quote 'an annoying git...'. What do I make of a statement like that??!!??
She is doing so to give you hope, and so that you will leave her a bigger tip. She works there, remember? If her bf was that bad, she'd left him already.
As for what to do...I wrote an article entitled:
But What if She has a Boyfriend?
it covers all the things you need to consider when the girl you fancy has a man in her life.
Here is the link to that article. Hope you find it useful.
http://www.franktalks.com/men/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=779&p=4668&hilit=boyfriend#p4654
-Frank
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