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writes:My wife is really pissed off at me because I haven't had sex with her in 3 weeks. I have been tired and stressed out lately with my job. She says I reject her to much and she's getting fed up with it. Her birthday was last week and I missed cause I was away on a business and man my wife was mad when I got back because I didn't talk to her at all and forget to get her a gift or tell her happy birthday. Now my wife is not speaking to me. She made me sleep on the sofa when I came back after we had the worse fight I got her all upset. I have tried to make it up to her by spending a day with her but then my boss wanted to go a meeting. I went and my wife was very ticked off (though I got her flowers) she then spend the next hour locked the bathroom crying. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): No offense, but if you were my husband and you treated me that way all the time, you wouldn't be sleeping on the couch, your belongings would be at the curb. I do not mean to offend you--just trying to warn you. That's all. She might get fed up and find a man that won't neglect her.
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 Do you ever miss a meeting. You keep track of these dates and appointments right?
You need to schedule time with your wife and keep that date. Put her birthday, your anniversary etc. on your calander and set it to alert you a day or so early.
If a meeting/trip comes up and you have that day already on your calender you tell that person "that time/day is already booked we will need to schedule for another time/day" if it was indeed booked for another meeting or business dealing would you cancel it? no you wouldn't.
Your wife needs to be your top priority. Because quite honestly I would be ticked off too.
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reader, nickieausgr  +, writes (5 June 2009):
Give her one hour a day, just remind her how much you love her, how much shes means to you & that ur working so she can have anything she wants in this life... Gifts dont mean much if theres nothing said, make her feel wanted and beautiful, try it for a couple of days & u'll see the difference... If you dont she'll be outta there, she'll find someone that knows whats shes worth
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Sorry I would have to agree with your wife about you neglecting her - not being able to be with her on her birthday due to work is one thing, but to forget to wish her and forget to get a gift.... well, thats not good, because it is telling your wife that she is not worth thinking about!
You must start looking at your workload and start making compromises or else one day you will wake up and she will have run off with someone else!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): My EX and I stress EX husband was like this with me. He worked every hour that God sent and forgot my birthday year after year, and would interrupt me if I was speaking to take a call from his boss. When we went on holiday he was glued to the phone and the stock exchange. Me and the children were way down the list. I put up with this for 15 plus years and then had enough. I do fully understand that a lot of jobs are tiring and stressful and that you have to put a hell of a lot of effort into even keeping your job nowadays without even hoping to get on but some times you need to turn the phone off or just say no and concentrate on your family. Forgetting birthdays and then ruining the day you had tried to make it up to her with is totally unacceptable. I know you think it probably doesn't matter much and that she will always be there and you can make it up to her another time but truly she won't see it like that. Try to cut down on your business trips/ work time and put her first and make her see you are putting her first.
All the best,
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 You need to start putting her before your job!!!! She is far more important than any job so you need to either quit or compromise with your boss and tell him/her that you can't go on as many trips or meetings, he/she will have to find someone to share the load with you. If I was you wife I would have left you by now!
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