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writes:do people find new love while already in long-term relationships? i met a girl at a friends house on game night and took a great liking to her over the few times we ran into one another, i'm in a longstanding relationship and am very confused.the girl knows of my relationship and respects it but i can tell there is a connection between us and it's obvious but i'm not sure on what to do, i don't want to leave my current relationship to jump into a new one. any advice would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 yeah it is possible people find new loves whilst in a relationship.
it's just what sometimes happens i mean in some ways it actually shows that maybe the person you're with at the moment isn't the one you really see yourself settling down with.
alot of people whom are in relationships find other people they get attracted too whom they never thought they would and sometimes then the relationship sizzles out because the new attraction.
it's good she respects you're in a relationship and great that you've not done anything together.
i mean if you don't want to leave the relationship then fair enough
but you need to be sure this is what you want.
otherwise this can probably lead to cheating i'm not judging you saying you will but if you really like this other girl more so than the one your with then maybe you should end this relationship and see how it goes with the other girl.
but if as you say don't want to give up this relationship because you're really into this girl you're currently with then perhaps it's just you and this girl really get on because you guys are similar and will probably become great friends.
The choice it up to you.
i mean you seem a really decent guy and know's what is right and wrong and you clearly don't want to hurt your current girlfriend.
but if you do prefer this other girl then you know what to do but make sure it is the decision you really want!
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): dont throw away a long term relationship and break your girlfriends heart. the phrase the grass isnt always greener comes to mind. There are times in peoples lives when they think they might like someone else, but if you are happy in your relationship and you and your girlfriend are settled with one another and are happy, you should not be thinking about someone else. Its not right and not fair on your girlfriend to be socialising with someone like that. You should remove yourself from the situation and just remember everything you have with your girlfriend. Its disrespectful to her for a start and very cruel at worst if she found out. Stop the situation before someone gets hurt.
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