A
female
age
41-50,
*rankie junior
writes:I gave my husband (now ex husband) oral sex and he gave me oral sex and then we had a long and wild sex session that evening. After my husband (ex) fell to sleep, I called the police because my husband (ex) had traffic warrants. I wanted my husband (ex) out of my life because I was secretly seeing someone new. I had been telling this new person that my husband (ex) and I were separated and had not had any relations for many months. A few days later, while my husband (ex) was in jail; I celebrated my relationship with the new person and started having sex with the new person without telling him what happened just days before. A little over one year later, I married the new person, and he is a wonderful man and husband, and the children love him more than their father (ex) who never sees the children. I feel so guilty I can't stand it. What should I do? Should I confess to my new husband what had really been going on and include the events of that long and wild, last-time-sex-night with my ex? My new husband is suspicious and asking questions because I mistakenly talked about the police and arrest-events of that last night with my ex-husband and then I quickly tried to cover up what I had blurted out by mistake. I'm tired of lying!
View related questions:
in jail, my ex, oral sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 OK; This one takes the cake-what in the world does calling te cops have to do with wild oral sex unless he was really really bad at it?
A
female
reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 I think it's your business and should stay buried, but you've already done damage by blurting it out, so if it means that much to you, you should probably fess up. But be prepared for your new husband to think poorly of you afterwards. What you did was truly nasty and he may never see you the same again. The choice is yours. If it were me, I'd ask God for forgiveness and then bury it, never to discuss again.
...............................
A
female
reader, Denise32 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Oh god. Why did you have a wild sex session with your husband and then call the police on him? No wonder you feel guilty.
You sure didn't waste any time "celebrating" the new man, who you're now married to.
If you do tell him the truth about what happened he's bound to be upset, probably shocked and may question your trustworthiness. I guess you may well be scared of what this will do to your marriage?
Well, maybe it would be best to come clean - only I WOULDN'T go into a lot of details about the wild sex. He certainly won't want to hear that!
I don't really know what to tell you, to be honest. I would suggest you talk first to a third person - maybe your doctor or make an appointment with a (non-judgmental) clergy person and ask his/her help in dealing with your guilt and what would be the better way to handle this......
I hope it works out......
...............................
|
