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writes:So i have a boyfriend and out of nowhere he says we need a break, im his first girlfriend because he is bi-sexual and only had boyfriends... before we started our relationship i asked if he was ready for a girlfriend he said "yes" but no he is talking about how he loves me and would give me the world if i asked for it but that he thinks a break would be good for us, i dont kno wat to do now.. i told him a break doesnt sound so bad but he still wnats to hang out. What should i do now? im tired of getting hurt. - Weeping Michele
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): I think he may have discovered he is actually gay and not bisexual. He may not want to admit it, but I think he realized that while he cares about you, the sexual interest isn't there because he only likes men. I've seen this same exact thing happen a few times before, and that's what the cause was. The guys didn't admit it until years later, though.
Good luck, lovely.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Give him space during this break, and if he asks for your attention he will want you back. Cause if you dont give him space then he will make the break more permenant.
Just act cool, and this will give him time to think about what he wants.
Hope this helped x
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reader, CharmedCupid +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Sorry t say,your boyfriend has done the right thing. I tink he found a guy he wants to do stuff with and thought it would be the MOST POLITE thing and ask for a break,so its not cheating. Don't worry. Just play it cool and let things run its course dont get jealous or over react. simple ;)
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reader, Meee666 +, writes (5 September 2010):
I may be completely wrong but this guy doesn't sound bisexual. Ive got a feeling he may really be gay. I mean, before you he only dated guys and now he wants a break from the relationship but still wants to hang out? Maybe he really likes you as a person and wants to be friends but got confused and thought he was sexually attracted to you. Or possibly he only said he was bisexual because he hadn't really come to terms with only liking guys. Either way, he is probably very confused and you could be a good friend by helping him through it, without wanting something in return.
But don't take my word for it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Hey, Weeping Michele.
Your boyfriend hasnt had a lot of experience with girls before so he may be a little un-sure of himself around you as he's only been with guys and may not feel as comfortable around girls as he does with guys which isnt his fault.
Never the less, Breaks in a relationship half of the time end with the "lets just be friends" speech but sometimes its not always that bad depending how long you have been together although in your case you seem to like him a lot.
All i can recomend is ask him if you can talk about the whole thing so you can understand to the full extent why he's suddenly made this decision and you also need to have your say as you are confused of his decision.
I hope you get your answer soon and i hope i helped a little :).
good luck. x
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