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writes:Hi all...just after a little advice....well my GF of a year has hinted that she wants a threesome, FFM, we have discussed quite a lot, whilst I am happyish to go along I have a couple of quesions you guys n gals may be able to answer for me.1. I dont get it that she is happy to be with a girl but doesnt want to reciprocate the sex i.e. she is happy to have her pussy eaten but doesnt want to do the same to the other girl...dont get that at all...2. She says its a "one off"...could this be..or will it lead to other encounters...3. I am sort of airing on the side of caution...is it really worth the risk of messing the very good relationship we have...or will it make it stronger for the experienceThanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): One day i was talking to my wife about threesome with her friend, she was agreed and we had more fun then any thing in the past.
You should try and give some thing new to your wife
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Aunts and Uncles...food for thought....and no, its not something I asked her to do for me...she approached me with her fantasy....but still dont get the idea of her not really touching the other girl....as such....
I will be chatting to her about trying to keep it as a fantasy....but then she may just do it anyway....without my knowledge.....and that would be worse...not from the point me of joining in...just the fact she did it behind my back...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): 1) It's personal preference really! Everyone is comfortable with different things. In straight relationships, some guys love recieving oral but feel dirty giving it. It just depends what type of background you've grown up in, and many other things effect what you think and believe when it comes to the bedroom.
2) I believe there's more chance of there being more threesomes once you've had one, than the fun stopping there. In a lot of cases, you experience one threesome and you fancy another.
3) Aah this is a tough one. Threesomes often cause big problems in relationships, because it has been known that partners run off with other people. For example, 'A' and 'B' are in a relationship, and fancy a threesome with 'C'. So they do, and 'B' likes 'C' a little too much, after seeing them in bed! So 'B' and 'C' go off together. As you can see, 'A' and 'B's sexual fantasises have ruined their relationship. So there is always a danger lurking about. But you never know, not all threesomes end this way. You've just got to be aware of the dangers, and be prepared for anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Hi Hunny
If your relationship is strong then this could damage it, It may be every mans dream of 2 women..But in reality if you worry about certain things now then the chances of you worrying after the 3some has taken place will be doubled, It will get you wondering if your partner may prefere a woman.. And enjoy the actual act itself may cross your mind better that the act of making love with you as you say there are cerytain things she wishes to be done to her but does not wish to return the favour so this is her fantasy, maybe she feels it may spice things up for you hunny, Think very hard if you wish to go through with this and if you can then just forget about it..A friend of mine did this and the relationship was never the same again, It was the husband that felt the hurt, When his wife took great liking to females after the first time and carried on meeting with them after..This may not happen love but it is always a difficult thing to no what could happen....I hope that made sense hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Dont do it trust me it will be a disaster and I have been there they wanted it and it went well for awhile then he started paying more attention to me then her and then it was all down hill from there it will ruin ones relationship.... and that is a bad thing if you truly love your mate...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Well the problem is you should be having this discussion with her!. Its not really going to make your decision any easier to get our advice. You need to tell her all your concerns, as she may not have thought about some of the points you have. Who knows?, she might even be doing this solely for you!. hence the reason why she doesnt want to reciprecate anything with the second female.
I would think that if she is the one suggesting this, she would want to get stuck in and really get invovled, but it seems that she has other reasons. maybe she wants to impress you by showing how far she will go to see you happy, or Maybe she is testing you!. its hard for us Aunts to give you the answers on this one, its a personal preference.
Just remember these things can turn sour and bring up feelings of serious regret and resentment.
So I seriously suggest you really talk this over with your GF as its entirely between you two and no-one can really make this decision for you Hun.
Ok good luck, hope you make the right decision.
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reader, 09876  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 hey mate,
This one is a bit out of my ball game, although I have been in a similar situation with two friends. My opinion, if its a good strong relationship, its not worth the risk.
A relationship really is a two person thing, and I can't see how bringing in a 3rd person (even for just a one-off thing) could strengthen it.
At the end of the day its your choice, and your in the best position to make the decision. It may be a one-off, but what if she likes it and it leads to more and more? could you commit to that? Weigh it up. If you don't want to, then tell her and explain why, if she cares, she'll understand. Hope this helps mate
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