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writes:I have a girlfriend of 1 year with whom I am in love with. However, she is a year younger than me, and since I have just graduated from High School a little late recently,(3 months ago to be exact) I never really see her anymore, and it feels like it's falling apart little by little. I love the girl to death, but I just don't see it going anywhere.Anyway, I recently met this girl whilst at a friend's house. She is a German exchange student, and she is, and I hate to say this, more attractive in almost every other way than my girlfriend. To make a long story short, we really hit it off, and tonight I went over to her house and watched a movie with her. The fly in the ointment is that after the movie, (Rush Hour, great movie btw) she leaned over and kissed me, and I kissed her back... Again, and again. Hell, I even felt her butt and stroked her hair. I feel like a horrible person with an extremely awesome problem. And as for my girlfriend in this whole equation, I do not even believe that this German girl knows I have a woman I call my own. As for explaining it to her, I don't want her to go running to my girlfriend and expose my horrible wrongdoing...Damn passion and its stranglehold on the male race.In short, what do you think I should do? I'm lost, as I feel like I love both of them, and things seem to be crumbling with my girlfriend...Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (22 October 2007):
 It sounds like you are experiencing mixed emotions. If you truely love your g/f you should refrain from spending time alone with a the new girl. Try to focus more on your schooling and give yourself a break from dating. Hopefully you will be able to think more objectively about how you really feel on either account. I will give you something to think about. Why do you say that you don't see the relationship going anywhere?
It is quiet normal for one to become confused if they are constantly away from the other person in the relationship. Sometimes they just feel plainly neglected or too lonely without someone close. Being attracted to someone is one thing. If you are with someone long enough you might begin to see that The Book's cover is just that.. a cover for the not so good reading material. Meaning the person you think you love you already know. The person whom you consider more attractive might be the least attractive underneath.
Personality is a good part of compatability not just the physical attraction. Take the time to get to know someone from afar and if you can't be faithful to the one you love then be fair and let her go. Just be sure because you could loose that special someone and the new girl might not measure up in the long run. You will then be out in the cold and may not have another chance. Act responsibly and think tiwce before you let someone go as there are times when it's the Point of No Return. A thought ( Why do you say you don't see the relationship going anywhere?) Good luck and Godspeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Young anon friend, You are embarking on a long journey. You will be on this journey a long time. And you will meet many new people and many will become friends. So will your "home girl". And she is a senior now? Well, you probably should lose your picture of her sitting at home alone, pining away for you. Would she not have all the activities she normally would at school? Just as you are involved in many new things? So, you had an "experience" with another girl. I really think it was a rather nice one. But, you feal "guilty". Young friend, you know you are not in a position to make "life commitments" at this point in your life. And niether is your girl at home. Stay friends with her. It is a very sweet thing. Even I can tell that. But, you will both be going on your seperate journeys. You have already taken your first step. Whether your paths will, or can, come together in the future is unknown. Don't feel yourself to be "bonded" now. And don't expect that of her. It would be unfair to you both. Take care, Tom
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