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writes:I have an average size penis, 5.5 inches, and my girlfriend says she like ones that aren't small but aren't too big. Can anyone help me with size, positions or really just any advice. It would be great to hear from a fellow average sized person who has good sex, so there is hope lol. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Hi Love,
Size really does not matter hunny its what you do with it Im a woman I no ok and she is a little bloody selfish if you ask me, Nice one peoriaman you got that spot on!!! Take care love hun your perfect love mandy xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): ROFL. Good one, pioriaman. That ought to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): in that case she is young and ungrateful. As you get older you will find that size isnt the be all and end all. Most girls dont know what they like, its just stereotypically they should say a large penis. Take no notice and learn how to use your to your advantage. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Some of the things that I have read indicates to me that young women (girls) like the excitement of thinking about a big penis. Some may never get over thinking that way. However, most women, as they get older, begin to care far less about penis size. They care far more about love making skills and the man's interest in making her feel good during sex. By the time they are 30 or so and beyond, they would much rather have a guy who is 5 inches long and a great lover then a guy who is 7 inches long and thinks he is God's gift to women.
It takes time (like years) for a man to become a good lover. Some may be great when they are 20 and others may never learn how to properly satisfy a woman. My wife discovered many years ago that some guys in their 30s cared about how she felt during sex, but most just cared about their own pleasure. Eventually, if you care more about how the woman feels more that you do about how you feel, you will become a great lover. It took me until my mid 30s to become a caring lover. After I cared about the woman more than me, my wife and another partner of mine thought that I was great.
You are young. Be patient. You are not small. You are average and women with some experience love a average sized guy who can make them feel wonderful. Another hint - learn how to use your tongue, all over her. Exciting her that way is far more important than how big you are.
Just think, you have 50 or 60 or more years of sex in front of you. It takes time to learn. Like maybe 10 years. It will also take time for women your age to learn what great sex is really about.
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reader, cool_dude_12 +, writes (21 October 2007):
cool_dude_12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh by the way when i talked about how she dosent like them small or too big i think she would say mine is small.
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reader, cool_dude_12 +, writes (21 October 2007):
cool_dude_12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys rock thanks a ton but more info is always good :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Make sure you keep sex interesting use toys and make sure you let her know that you want her sexually. Woman love to be needed. she will be thinking about you all day. That's what you want her to do. Right! Make sure you use birth control so nobody gets pregnant because once that happens its not so fun anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Your girlfriend tells you she likes an average sized penis..never a good thing to say really is it...calling you average I mean..still, she has a very good point. Most women feel the same, it truly doesn't matter about the size - if you're good in bed then you're good in bed (it's all in the foreplay anyway babe). Don't go worrying about the size, you're above average I would say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Here are 2 more sites to check out:
http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/women_penis_size.shtml
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shrinkage_(slang)#Erect_length
You are just about average and if you read the first link, you will see that most women like it that way. My wife is about average height and found that anything much longer than 6 inches would poke her cervix and hurt in some positions. A couple of her past lovers were 5 inches or shorter and she says that she enjoyed the sex she had with them. As others have said, it is your skills at love making that is the most important. Kissing her all over, finding her sensitive areas and kissing or licking them, if accessible, during sex. My wife's is her ear and she will have an orgasm every time if I can reach her ear and lick it. The best position for that is the old, "boring" missionary. Take the time to warm her up, treat her gently and she should love it.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (21 October 2007):
 Just adding to what the other aunts have already said really and that is that size does not matter in the least, more how you use it.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): You are above average, cool_dude, forget about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Definately check out that site from the other post on here, I had a quick look and its very informative. I dont understand why it has been said that your girlfriend is selfish, from what you have said she likes a penis not too big and not too small if you are average then thats perfect for her.
Its definately true that size doesnt matter, so long as you know what to do with it to compensate. A particular encounter of mine springs to mind when a the guy had the smallest penis I have every experienced and he also couldnt use it either - the sex was crap and I avoided it as often as I could. Sad I know but if you dont enjoy it then whats the point.
I noticed you asked about better sex. Are you implying that you dont have good sex? Try new techniques, places, toys - Make it better than good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Definately check out that site from the other post on here, I had a quick look and its very informative. I dont understand why it has been said that your girlfriend is selfish, from what you have said she likes a penis not too big and not too small if you are average then thats perfect for her.
Its definately true that size doesnt matter, so long as you know what to do with it to compensate. A particular encounter of mine springs to mind when a the guy had the smallest penis I have every experienced and he also couldnt use it either - the sex was crap and I avoided it as often as I could. Sad I know but if you dont enjoy it then whats the point.
I noticed you asked about better sex. Are you implying that you dont have good sex? Try new techniques, places, toys - Make it better than good.
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (21 October 2007):
 i think your girlfriend is being very selfish then, because nobodys perfect. i doubt your girlfriend would be very happy if you turned round to her and said i prefer girls with bigger boobs and youve only got average sized ones. completly selfish. i hope youve told her this n all. but anyway, for the advice, i suggest you place a few pillows underneath your girlfriends bum so it lifts it up, then you can thrust in deeper. you`ll be able to find loads of positions on the internet for deeper penetration. Hope this helps x x
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Yes you are indeed average and you have probably already heard that it is not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean that matters. Well, that is more true than most men would like to believe.
However, I have spoken with those with much less than average size penises who make their ladies very happy.
The trick is to do your research and become an expert at sex. I guarantee you she will not complain.
I did a couple of minutes research for you and found a website you may want to visit. I took the following quote from there and also have the link for you. Doc
"Worried that you have a small penis? This advice should help reassure you - both that you're probably perfectly normally endowed, and that, no matter the size of your penis, you can still be a fabulous lover. Learn more"
http://www.loversguide.com/sex_advice/penis_size.html
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reader, Lila +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Women on top with pillows and possibly her feet under you butt make sex with any size but porn variety great.
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