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30-35,
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writes:My guy and I have been together for 3 years now and we've been pretty close to having sex a couple of times now and I know I want him to be my first and he's sure he wants me to be his first but I am just so scared for the first time so I always stop him before we get to that point. I don't know how to change my apprehension?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 January 2012):
 If you have apprehensions, then you are still not ready. And its not about it being a good thing or a bad thing, bottom line is you are not ready and you shouldn't do it unless you are a thousand percent sure and confident about having sex.
If you are happy to remain celibate even after 3 years together, it just shows how string your relationship is and the emotional bond that you share runs much deeper than the physical need. Of course there's nothing wrong with having sex in a committed relationship, but it will happen when the time is right. You dont have to do anything to change your apprehensions, you just have to realize that the first time is a big deal for most people, and can be overwhelming. Just go with it when you are ready.
All the best to you
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (22 January 2012):
Most people just get drunk.
But seriously, you just have to get over your "stage fright".
If you have known him for three years, I think that the two of you should be able to handle it by now.
And despite what you see in the movies, the first time is always going to be awkward. I had a girlfriend who, the first time we had sex with each other told me to relax, and that she was not expecting it to be much since "this is not the movies".
Hope this helps.
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