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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyoneI have a problem. I am a long time reader of this blog and occasionally come for help. Here I am again. I am a friend of the girl who got introduced to me in Feb when I came to USA through immigration. When I came here my girlfriend of 4 years back home dumped me for another guy. I was in misery and my sister in law introduced me to this girl who happened to be her co-worker.I was lonely and I enjoyed the company. But at the same time I was conscious as a guy who knew that rebounds are extremely dangerous so I kept it to hanging out only. Before my coming to USA, my sister in law always told her that I am an amazing guy, but I have a girlfriend. If I had not a girlfriend, she would have loved to see this girl and I together and this girl always liked this remark. When I came to USA, she sort of took me as a reward, gave me a lot of care and attention cause she knew I was hurt.We started going out. Went to a lunch, a dinner. But soon I realized she was leading me on. She cancelled 2 lunches, cancelled a movie. I told her to let me know when it is easier for her but never heard back. I lost the hope cause I was not ready to get hurt again.Six months passed. On a week prior to new year day, my sister in law and I saw her somewhere. She came from behind and sort of hugged me. I completely ignored her.On new year eve, she wished me new year. I did the same and we started talking again. She asked me why I stopped talking to her and I told her the whole truth that she led me on and all that. She apologized for everything and we went to dinner on my birthday on January 5th. Days before and after that she kept a lot of texting and calls with me. I thought that she was into me and things could go further into a meaningful relation. But after 3 or 4 days that dinner, she stopped all the communication again when I told her that I want a relationship with her and that I want us to be together. She said that we are just friends. I confronted her about the romantic and flirty languages and signs her language (she often called me baby and love) but she said she didn't mean any of it. Since then I have reduced the amount of communication myself. Like the past she was supposed to schedule a lunch or hangout but she did not even bother to let me know she cannot come. I had to ask myself and it turned out she had completely forgotten about it.I have been confused. I haven't ignored her completely as she might find a reason to put it all on me in the future saying that I acted being mean and all that. Recently her mom moved back to home country and she has to do the households, job and kitchen and I have gone so far to offer help with all that as well that I can do any help she wants. But she has coldly pushed me off.What should I do? Should I completely ignore her or what? I have talked to her about it but she says she does not know why she has been mad at everyone from the past week.Help me here please.
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