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writes:I've been with this guy for 3 and a half years and I'm happy. I have two best guy friends that are just friends. The more I talk to them and hang out with them the more I start having feelings for both of them. All three boys are best friends. What do I do.
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reader, lily13524 +, writes (16 August 2009):
 first,you don`t really have feelings for your guy friends,its just that you hang with them and whiles getting to know them,maybe yall have things in common so you think so,and it will cause problems if you like 3 guy friends,guys wouldnt make a girl destroy their friendship so then,maybe your boyfriend might dump you,or tell you,pick.But all of these things don`t have to happen if only you can control your feelings and dont make them come into actions.~take it from someone who have experience this,i thought i was falling for my boyfriend bestfriends,but no i wasnt we just had alot in common,and i got over it~~hey if you like my advice plz rate me~xoxo melly xoxo
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reader, Jay_xxxxx  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 I think you should shold stay with your boyfriend and warn him that you have these feelings but ensure him that you love him and don't want to leave him and he should understand. Stay away from the other two a little bit and ask your self why do you have these feelings?, maybe your boyfriend is not keeping you intreasted, go on a few dates and spend some more alone time with each other.Hope I helped Jay x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Look your 15 (or younger)- this idea that at that age that you have to pick a boy and fall in love with him (much less that as a kid you need to have sex...) is not correct. At your age you SHOULD be mixing with multiple boys and have experiences that are appropriate for someone your age. In a few years you can pick one, and have a more advanced relationship. Not too long ago, women in their 20's routinely dated multiple guys until they decided to go steady, often which led to being enguaged. While times have changed, you DO NOT need to accelerate the process that normally occures at 17 or 18 to 13 to 15... take your time - it's IMPORTANT to learn the skills you'll require in a few years.Keep in mind, girls who have very serious relationships too young often fail at relationships after the "serious" one as they can't transitition - I have a very dear freind that at 15 moved in with an 18 year old and raised his son for 3 years. They broke up and for the last 15 years she's never been able to start and advance a decent relationship - she's cute, smart, educated and lonely.. it's sad... don't let this happen to you or your freinds...
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (15 August 2009):
Write down what you feel abt all 3 of them and sort out your feelings in terms of who do you like the most and who are you most attached to emotionally?do this when you have hardly anything to worry abt. It will take some thought and weighin out all the things but im sure youd find a solution to your own problem.plus theres very little information I can help you with.I hope whatever i said helpedLoveGod bless youI pray for the best of you all.
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