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writes:Well my best friend since 3rd grade told me the other day that he was bi-sexual i have no problem with that , i see nothing wrong with being gay or bi. I am however straight male and a couple months before he finally told me , i noticed when we spent time together he would flirt with me and hug up on me a little . For example, i was a reading in my room on the bed sitting up and he comes around and hugs me from behind (i really wouldn't have cared) till started moving his hands all around my me and i pushed him off and said, "What the hell,man?"he just shrugs and says,"was just kidding" and after that he didn't do that again and he just did stuff like move closer to me when we sat close together. i already kinda guessed he was gay or something ,when i saw him checking me out every time we hung out. i love the guy like a brother but not that way but then when he told me he was bi , he kissed me and i tried to push him off (we are both are pretty buff, he is taller and a little stronger then me.) but then we stared wrestling each other and i got really tired (i was also sick with a fever) and he pinned me to the bed and went on top of me, then he started kissing me! Alls i remember it that and that after about 15 minutes ,he said he had to go to the bathroom and he walked really stiff and he came back . kissed me good bye and then we only really talked on the phone since.i was pissed at him for a while then i really thought about it and i liked kissing him!! i don't know whats going on and i realised i am attracted to him but i think i might be bi or something . Any advice?please
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reader, matt04 +, writes (24 July 2009):
matt04 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay this is just to thank you everyone for there advice and everything else. Okay after what happened in the last situation with Jason i posted on here . we talked and worked it out for a while.......he backed off. and we still hung out but not as much as we used to. He got a boyfriend and talked about him alot and he really liked this guy and was pretty serious about him,i could tell, really. which i congratulated him but he didn't seem that happy about and one night i said to introduce us so Jace did. we went to a bar , at first i thought he was a nice guy and he seemed to like jason honestly.thought i will admit i got jealous when he started to kissed in front of me with jason.Until later that while jason and I were still kinda sober the guy was a drunk and and started hitting on anything i his sights and kept going on about is ex-lover and the he blurted out, that he was only using Jason to get his ex back. i was pissed. i punched the guy in the face when we were out of the bar and cursed him out saying he shouldn't play with people like that (i know i shouldn't have done that but i don't regret in the least). Jason was pretty hurt and pissed of course i was there for him, i am his best friend. but then what shocked me was what he said when we were back at my apartment."why do you have to be this way?"he said. "What do you mean , i am your friend, aren't I?" i smiled at him.we were one the couch and then he was on top of me again kissing me.(as you noticed he is very physical person)what surprises me to no end is that he looked at and he had tears in his eye.he said "Why do you have to make me fall for you over and over again? Even when i was with that asshole i kept wishing it was you.But you keep telling u like me as a friend, i hate that! I try and get over you but then you just....ugh! i know you Matt, I love you. When will accept me?!"I was staring at him again and laughed a little putting my hand on his cheek ."what are you laughing at? I just confessed my heart to you , again!""Jace, your really funny sometimes. your the dense one. Of course i accept you , thats why we have been all friends these years and still are? I love you as you are and you know that but i never wanted to ruin our friendship. I know you love me more than just a friend . thats why i want to give this a try, I have never done anything like this before but..i was jealous when i saw you kissing him. so i must like you a little more that a friend to." i smiled up at him and said" Your one lucky guy because this only the time i will be this sentimental, i sound like a bloody girl."and for ounce i kissed him.okay sorry for all the sappy gush and crapman i seems i am writing or somethingi thought you guys should know where this ended up.things are going pretty well. I am starting i really do have more feelings for him ;Dso thanks everyone for you advice and support :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): I think that your friend really needs to cool it! You should tell him that, its not ok for him to be so agressive tords you if he does like you. Even if there would be a intamit relationship theres still bounderies of how a person can treat you. Tell him that it needs to stop bc if theres going to be any intamit relationship it has to be by your guide lines and when or if you'll ever be ready for a gay intamit relationship. You have to make a line or he'll keep pushing until he gets his way. Its a two way friend ship not just one say. If he trys to force to come with him say I don't wont to go anyware with you,especally if your other friends are around. Make it so your in control of your life. he's being all about his feelings, well what about your feeling do they not matter. Your friend says he loves you but it really seems like a lot of lust,agressiveness, and (anger) tords any guys your with. Anyone mean to me and forcing to kiss them scaring my friends isn't a friend to me.
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reader, matt04 +, writes (7 April 2009):
matt04 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni still have no clue we really haven't talked about it , we are still best friend and still hang out alot but there have been some awkward moments and when we hang out with other people he gets jealous when other people start to get near me (it's kinda annoying actully) another example i was talking to my friend Damien and we were palling around and we hugged and had hands on our shoulders and then Jason (my best friend and the one who kissed me) comes over and grabs me around the waist and pulls me behind him and gives damien a death glare and them my friend michelle comes over and we start talking and start flirting (we have always flirted it is normal for us) and this was old news and jason comes over to me and grabs my arm ,we walk to the bathroom go into a stall (little to close for comfort for me)throws me against the wall and slams both his hand on with side of my head and stares at me and he kisses me again and i push him away (as much as i can ) i say " Dude, what the heck? you can't keep doing that! and whats up with you acting so wierd to every person i talk to?!"
He glares at me blushes and turns his head away snd says " Sorry , i don't know i just don't like people hitting on you or touching you" so i just stare at him and laugh a little " Your jealous? come on Jace, we have been know these guys for years." He sighs and says " God your so dense when will you realize !" i respond no clue whats he talking about "realize what?"
he just stares at me with an aggrivated look on his face and says " Ugh! look down " so i did and he had a hard on .
" yeah so? " Throws up his hands and says" You gave me that and you dont even realize i like you more than a friend and not like but i love you!" I was shocked i didnt know what to say. and thats how that night went down. after the whole thing, i said goodnight and we havent talked about that either , i have no clue how i feel and i dont want to ruin are friend ship and advice please too
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): I think it was wrong that he made you kiss him, if I want to kiss someone I'd give them the option to kiss me back and not force it on them. I think he kind of mixed your feeling up after the long kiss, so I really wouldn't think to much into it. I really wouldn't try to have a relation ship with a friend because a relationship has more expectations of a person and if you guys break up it may sever your friend ship. If you want to be with a guy, get with someone els and make up with your guy friend because you dont want him to feel like your friendship is dwindeling, or gone. And ifyou do tell him you feel like your bi and he still wants to be with you, turn him down to save your brotherhood. Even if he says oh we'll still be friends if it doesn't workout, don't trust on that alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): I'd wait a while and see how you feel when you are next with this guy. You say you love him like a brother, doing anything sexual with him may work out to be wonderful or you may end up loosing your 'brother'.
What's changed to make you now feel you fancy him? Fancying and admiring are close feelings, just slow down a bit. If you still feel that you are bi ask him why he kissed you and what he hopes for if you get together. At least then you'll know if you want to take your friendship to the next level.
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reader, bethevans  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 i agree with the person below.. maybe this is your time to realise you are bi .. :) and ya no hun im reli glad u have so much confidence cos i hate seein ppl on here saying horrible things about themselves.. soo maybe i think you should sleep on it and wake up in the mornin see how you feel and if you feel same way .. an still attracted to him.. then tell him!:) hope goes well x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): I think that your friend has a huge crush on you! Okay and since he kissed you, you are kind of feeling the attraction, there is nothing wrong with being bi or gay, the problems come from people who find this offensive. So, why dont you go with your attraction and see where it leads you?
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