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writes:Well, I have a boyfriend. He is 17 I am 15. I went to my friends grandma's house with her and some of my other friends. I met a boy there. He is pretty good friend with the three girls I went there with. He is 19 turning twenty next week. Well, I guess he thought I was cute. So another night I went there with them and we started talking. We talked for hours that night. And then we started text. Now I like him a lot and he likes me a lot. He has poured his heart out to me many many many times. He has graduated and I have three years left. So I asked him how that's going to work cause he should be getting a start on his future. He said he would wait for me. He was going to go into the army. He was going to leave in January to go to basic training. I told him its going to suck cause I won't get to see him. He said he would call me everytime time he gets the chance and when he returns home, I'm the first person that gets to see him. Yeah, I have a boyfriend. And I love him very much. But, this is sad to say, this other boy I'm talking to makes me so much happier than my boyfriend does... He always know the right things to say to make me smile. Yeah, this boy is so much older than me but he's not a perv or anything. We have never talked about that stuff. I asked him one time if he would wait for me to split with my boyfriend. And he said he will. And I asked what if he meets someone else. He said he will tell them he's waiting for someone... I just don't know what to do. Cause yes, my boyfriend makes me happy and we have so much fun together but all I'm asking is: what should I do with this situation?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 August 2010):
Clearly your boyfriend is no longer the guy for you. Let him go so he can find someone else. Then spend time alone and work out what you want. This older guy might seem appealing, but everyone appeals when we first get to know them. It's only later we realize we've made a mistake. I think you would do better to be alone right now working on yourself.
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reader, xAx +, writes (6 August 2010):
 I think that this older boy wants to get in your pants. I have many male friends in the army and they ALL like to have little games. For example, who can sleep with the most women.
You like this guy because he is saying nice stuff to you, but is he actually doing it? Give it time to see if he actually does like you.
I know you won't listen to this advice, but i shall give it to you anyway. When i was 14, i dated a guy who was 16, and now i realise that it was a massive difference and that he must have only wanted me for sex.
You may think 4 years is a big difference, but at your age it really is. He can have sex, drive, drink, vote etc and you cannot do any of these things. He is too old for you. Ask yourself why he is interested in you.
When i was 17, i had guys who were 22 after me. But i didn't date any of them as i wondered how it would seem to their friends, his family and plus i knew he went to the pub a lot with his friends and i wouldn't be able to drink, so i would feel ridiculous, small + really uncool!
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