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writes: Hi about a month ago I was working away for a week when I met this amazing guy, who also working away for my company, but from a branch close to me. We seemed to hit it off and I spent three nights with him in his hotel room. We never exchanged numbers, but after a wk I went to his store and gave him my number. Since then we've been on two dates a week and I really like him. After meeting the first time, I had a few problems with my anus, preventing me from having sex properly, but he said I was more than just sex. My first problem is that now he wants me to be the giver, a role which I'm not very comfortable in. Should I do it just to please him?The second problem is that I think I'm falling in love with him and after just a month I find it very uncomfortable and I'm unsure what he wants from this relationship. The question of why he never gave me his number when we were away keeps popping into my head and he keeps saying how he has other people on the go, even though I'm sure he's joking, I find myself wandering.Sorry the post was so long
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reader, lboy  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 hi reader,
i think that if you really like this guy then tell him whether he is joking or not about nthe other guys that has very little chance of changing his feelings for you. and about the whole anus problem that is probebly just from having so must sex in a row. also if you are uncomfortable with taking the possition of giver then tell him he should be supportive of that and appologise for making you feel uncomfortable.
well thats all the advice i can give you.
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reader, davie  +, writes (5 November 2006):
Don't worry too much about why he never gave you his number when you first met - as just remember you never gave him yours either! You obvioulsy had your reasons for not giving him your number at the time, and his may well be the same.
I am not sure why you are unfortable in being the giver in sex - is there more to it?
Saying he has others on the go isn't something to be joking about. I'd find out about that for certain - don't just wonder.
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reader, Emzybobzy +, writes (4 November 2006):
Hey, I think you should sit him down and talk about it or you will never know what he wants in this relationship. If that doesn't work then I would suggest putting the relationship on hold to get your head around things. Thats all I can say really. sorry if that doesn't help any.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (4 November 2006):
 Hiya,
For your first problem i think u should talk to him about it and reach a compromise. Maybe he thought about the problem your had and felt you will be more comfortable in that role. Perhaps once in a while u can exchange roles just to please each other.
Secondly, i think he ought to have given his number by now really and u are right to feel concerned. But again communication is the key here. Dont let him joke him way out of things. he should be able to tell you what he feels at this stage and what he wants from you even if he just wants a casual affair. u need to know and decide if that is what u also want from him. I think that's fair enough.
Take dear and goodluck.
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