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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I met a guy on facebook and we chatted for several weeks before meeting up. We began a relationship, taking things very slowly as we've both been hurt in the past - this was several months ago. I've been spending more and more time at his house so I'm beginning to notice things...He has many female friends, of which most of them he has slept with (his own admission), he is best friends with his ex f*ck buddy and insists that I should 'get on' with her (even though I have explained that it makes me feel uncomfortable...I have nothing in common with this woman other than him), he has one particular friend who tries to get him to go out every week (she knows he has a girlfriend), he has another friend who calls him her soulmate every time she gets in touch (I only found out yesterday that they actually went out a few years back - she made him god father to her son and has told him that if anything happens to her, he is to bring her son up and become his guardian), we had a row and within less than 2 hours he started receiving explicit photographs from 2 other facebook 'friends'- he insisted he thought we were over so I shouldn't dwell on it, his last girlfriend has recently (6th July) emailed him 60+ photographs or herself in various states of undress - he copied and saved the file 4 times and now to add insult to injury, I have been missing some underwear for sometime...I've literary just found my panties alongside various photographs of his 'friends' and some celebrities, a girl's glove and some ladies lip gloss. He keeps telling me that I'm paranoid and that if he didnt want to be in a relationship, he'd tell me to 'f*ck off'. Am I being unreasonable for getting worked up?? He gets intensly jealous if I so much as speak to another man (prime example was I was out walking with him and my dogs and a man stopped to comment on my dogs - we chatted for about 5 minutes if that, just a friendly stranger but the whole world may as well have come to an end). Am I over reacting??
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reader, MRJONES  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Those types of guys annoy me immensely. As the saying goes 'Dont get mad, get even!'
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Ladies and Gentleman..that would be the perfect example of a Player. He feeds of the attention of the women.
Keep playing his game and you will keep losing. You are merely another warm body to score with.
You are not paranoid, you are annoyed! How much more did you want to put up with until you decide you have had enough?
How bad does it have to get?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): Leave him and find someone who doesn't have all that extra baggage. He's a player and not worth the stress you are going through. He's just using you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): Soon you will be one of the ex's that her panties is in his collection! YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM. The only solution is walking away.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 He's an ego feeder... in a BIG way. I think the annon M is clued in on this one.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): No, he is over reacting and you are likely getting played here.
I'll sum this all up for you though:
1) he's not likely to change
2) so you have to decide if you can tolerate all this
That's 99.0 % certain.
And also, this is just conjecture, but I will bet he is a manipulative person. To be able to keep so many exs interested in himself like that he must be playing some mind games. Personally, I think it's kind of creepy too that he has a fan club of women surrounding him and that it seems like it feeds his self-esteem.
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