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writes:I was with this guy, in a long distance relationship, he said that it wouldn't work i knew it wouldn't. He said that we couldn't afford to see each other, which is true. But it doesn't seem much of a reason. I feel so weird about this i miss him but i feel as though i was a nuisance to him. Its been a while now and i don't want him back. But we had been going out a long time that i knew i loved him he said he loved me can any help me in the way i'm feeling i feel like i've just been dropped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007): I totally know how you feel! My ex bf and I went out for a year and we were very in love with each other and then he had to go back to his home state. We both don't have jobs becuz we are students and we ended it because we lived too far and I knew he would not be able to come see me. I also felt bad about it. After so long, he couldn't raise some money to come see me? But the point is that yes maybe he could have raised money to come see me once, what about the other days? We would only see each other once or twice a year? that is not a good thing for a relationship. I say the same thing for you. Sometimes we want something so bad that we are not realistic, and you even said you knew it would not work. In relationships one is always the realistic one and the other is the dreamer/romantic. Your boy was obviously the realist. This doesn't mean that when he decided to end it, that he didn't care about you. He was just thinking about things without getting his emotions involved which is sometimes the best thing to do so that we don't get hurt later. Good luck to you. I trust that everything happens for a reason. So you will also find happiness soon.
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reader, NJmomabear  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Last year, I just got out of a 5 year, long distance relationship with someone who was 8 yrs younger then me. Even though our emotional relationship was fulfilling, I can't even being to tell you how devistated my life is financially. It has caused me to not being able to keep my car repaired and legal, the stress of 'not knowing' and the countless jobs it has costed me. It was the most wasteful 5 yrs of my life. It robbed me of so much.
Consider yourself lucky, even if you were 'dropped'. A hurt ego is better then chancing all of the other problems that kind of financial strain can bring about. Focus on more positive things around you and forget him altogether!
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reader, beautifulllove +, writes (28 April 2007):
 This is a hard one ok sweetie you did what you shouldn't have but it's not the end of the world, you fell for something that wasn't going to work and now you feel as you have been dropped? am I right, ok frist you loved him and you miss him but you do not want him back. Do really not want him back or is that just something your telling you self? but anyways if you two were in real love than you both would have relized it's not a game and tried to make it work just maybe it would have but now I don't see how im making it better but all I can say is keep your head up and look a little closer to home.good luck xoxo
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