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writes:I'm a dancer and I'm single I help others to learn this style of dance (Ceroc) I have become very accomplished at it and hardly ever sit down because the fact that men are in short demand at any dance venue, good male leads are even rarer ! so I am sort after by lots of women where ever I dance, I recommend to any man reading this....take up dance , it's fantastic and you meet so many new friends, but as I was saying , I am surrounded by all these women yet feel so lonely, I'm in a position where I could easily do one night stands, it's obvious from comments I get, but I'm not into that at all, I have such a passion for dance that I also feel when making love, but! it has to be with the right person, making love without feelings for that person is pointless.I have never betrayed anyone in my life because I have been through it and I know the pain.....but! there is one woman I dance with (i'm 50 she is 36) that we have such a connection and we both feel the music and she never stops looking into my eyes, she is absolutly stunning and so sweet and has a boy friend and a child , I have told her to bring him because he does not know what he is missing dancing with her ! a dance is just a dance, but this is such a strong connection she praises me so much for making her feel great and I praise her for coming on so quickly and I have also said that her eyes are so beautiful and she just comes closer and stares into mine, so there you go, the passion I feel and she gives back is amazing , she tells me I could do anything to her, because she feels great in my arms, I just want to push her against the wall and kiss her so passionatly, but I never can, because it would hurt another and ruin her own relationship .We have an amazing connection that will just have to stay on the dance floor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): I feel your pain. I agree with birdynumnums, and irish49, but I know what you're feeling. You are a better person than me. I am the woman in a committed relationship with children who has felt a connection, like you describe, for someone close to 20 years younger. Your strength must be pretty incredible. I have so many reasons not to give in (to protect the life I've nurtured with my husband, to save my children from the confusion and anger a split marriage would create, and then there's him...even if the connection is mutual, could I rob him of this time of his life? Take from him what should be a time for him to be investing in a longer life partner?) and yet I have thought of him for over 2 years, waiting for the feelings to pass, waiting for the "passion" to fade, for me to see him as an ordinary person. No, I haven't given in. In your situation, I can see how the temptation could be greater.
I guess I'm saying, yes you're doing the right thing, but I know there is a cost. Hang in there. Here's a virtual hug for your integrity, passion, and for all the dance that I know means so much...it's a BIG thing in our family, too.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Irish, you said it all. Actions define character, and if she is truly weak, then you need to be a real man and resist temptation here, for her and her family's sake. That's what a stand-up guy would do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): It's ok if this challenges you, but good for you-to keep it all under control. You are smart to keep your brain engaged here. As I said before,
"She's a Mother and in a committed relationship and has a long standing, strong family life with another man."
So glad that you are taking into account your mature age, your self-control, and your integrity as a decent person who can resist temptation. Best to stay that way. Now go out there and dance away...have fun!
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reader, DANCINGMAN +, writes (16 May 2008):
DANCINGMAN is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello again, I can tell you this is not a fantasy of mine, she has started to come to the other venues I work at you see and she tells me I make her feel amazing, she has said things and I am so flattered, I did say to her that she must get her boyfriend dancing, because he will realise how good you are and how passionate dance can be, but she says he's to lazy and won't bother, also you have to bare in mind I dance with a huge amount of women and I have never felt a connection like this !! but as I said, I have been decieved by another and will never forget that pain and would not wish it on anyone ! I do have excellent control of myself and my emotions, but this has pushed me like never before, if only she didn't look so deep into my eyes every time we are close, I will keep it there, don't worry, only wish I was 16 years younger and then I don't think I could stop myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Yup, you are right. That is where it all stays, on the dance floor! To sum up, don't be foolish and mix up your feelings of fantasy, passion and sexual attraction with potential love for this lady. If these feelings are getting the best of you, it's time to find a new dance partner. She's a Mother and in a committed relationship and has a long standing, strong family life with another man. So any decisiona about potential relationships should be made with the brain not the heart and certainly not passion. Because sexual fantasy and passion always, always blurs the reality of what is truely and really in your future, if you were to choose to pursue this woman. It could get very ugly for you. Glad you have this in perspective, hun. Keep it that way.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (16 May 2008):
I suspect that your love of dance has gotten mixed up with your feelings for another with talent as profound as your own, and you've just recognized a fellow traveling soul, but you would probably lose this connection to her if you sullied it with anything as mundane and banal as human sexuality. Best to leave it as just being the Lord of her Dance! *tongue in cheek* LOL! Boy, that was fun to write...
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