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writes:In my relationship my boyfriend controls everything for the most part. We broke up a few times..and he is always the one to break up with me. He always chooses when he wants to see me. Neither he nor I are working right now so he never wants to go anywhere without money sometimes we can go weeks at a time without seeing each other because of this.I ask him to go to a park or something but he never wants too.When he gets mad at me. He refuses to talk or see me. No matter how much I need to talk and work things out. He always gets mad when it takes me long to pick something to eat when we are at a restaurant. He likes to call me when ever even all hours of the night. When I comfront him about he just say he won't call me at all. If it bugs me that he calls late. what really bothers me is that he can seat on his behind and not pick when I call but he is bored and almost asleep he want to call me and fall asleep 10 minutes later. Then I can't sleep.I just want to know does it have to be this way? Does someone have to control the relationship or can their be a balance? Or is the control thing wrong? I hope I am explaining my self properly (thank you anyone who helps)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help you are right. When I annoy him he calls me crazy and I am beginning to feel like I should go for some therapy to help me with my emotions..Leaving has been proved to be hard but I am determined to get out of this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): He sounds like a control-freak, an emotional abuser and even a narcissist. Run, and don't look back! Also either get a new phone number or buy a phone where you can turn off the volume. You deserve a good night's uninterrupted sleep!Control freaks (especially living with one) are life-destroying. Emotional abuse (google it) will gradually erode all your self-confidence and self-esteem to the point where you'll doubt your own sanity. It's been said that verbal and emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse, because v/e abuse doesn't leave any visible scars. They're all on the inside, and that's harder to heal.It will be easier to leave him sooner than later. If it sounds like I'm speaking from experience, I am. My ex-bf was always the one to break it off, he would pout and sulk when I would challenge him, just as you've done. You don't need that in your life-- you need a great relationship with a normal guy! Be strong-- bid him adios! :)
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (27 August 2009):
 It does not have to be that way at all. A relationship cannot be built on control and dependency, but only on mutual love and respect. Your boyfriend sounds as though the only person he loves and respects is he himself. Let him go. This may be painful at first, but it is preferable to continual unhappiness.
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