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writes: after ending a 4 yrs relationship which was aweful we have had no contact for 3 months now. she was abusive, selfish, rude, disrepectful. but it ended with us both mad and leaving. if she ever text me and ask how im doing i will never reply, but what if i ever run into her( which i make sure i will never do that)what do i say or do i just walk away? i dont want to come across like im still upset, or come across like i really care how shes doing. do i just smile and walk on, thats what i really want to do. you see ive been told over and over that all guys come crawling back, well not this guy. help please.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 Anger and pain are strange phenomenon. As much as we hate to feel these emotions, they protect us and allow us to release a lot of pent up negativity that arises when a relationship ends.
Reading between the lines and despite your stance, it's plain to see that your hurt and angry over this. Outwardly you want her to see that your not bothered but really you are suffering. It is normal and will pass.
It also isn't true that all men 'go crawling back'. In the great span of things, I am sure there are a great deal of people, both men and women who never go back and possibly an equal amount who do. Maybe you hope that she expects you to go back so that you can snub her. Wanting some vindication is also normal when you have been hurt.
You have two ways to go. Either try to reconcile with her or pick up your life and walk...it's as simple as that!!!
Best of luck to you and I hope you recover soon xxx
Aunty Em x
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