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writes:Iam in touch with a guy i used to date when i was 15 yrs old. Recently, he told me he was my first. I have no memory of this he tells me he started to enter and I stopped him as I was bleeding. But the thing is, I remember my first true experience with my kids dad - I was bleeding with him; I can't remember this situation. Why is this? Please help - I feel as if I'm going insane! x Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (1 October 2007):
 I don't think this guy was your first. Women tend to have an emotional attachment when they first have sex. All though down the road they may regret who they gave it too, they still remember who it was.I wouldn't worry about it and if brought up again, I'd say,"you know that didn't happen, you may be confused, but I'm flattered that when you were with her, you were thinking about me."That might just shut him up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): How weird. Gosh that's a horrible thing to go through. Is there anyway you can ask your kids father?? I mean I am sure he knows if he was your first or not. I'm sure that must be an embarrasing thing to bring up but at least so that you can get some piece of mind.
I guess if that happened to me I can imagine I would have made an appointment with the doctor. And I would have probably asked all my friends. My friends seem to know more about me than I do. Well my best friend does. Can you ask your friends?? There must be some friend of yours that would know, I would think. All my friends that I have known since high school know. Ask your friends.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Well, you remember who your first is, and you always will
You're not going insane
This man just was probably trying to wind you up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Maybe this is wishful thinking on his part! Some men have a very cloudy image of the past and it is not always the way it was. It sounds to me like he has a brain that way. Stick with your memories and forget what he thinks. Is it important what he thinks? No!
Take care
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (26 September 2007):
 everyone remembers their first time. and if it really was the case that your first time was so painful you had to ask him to stop and you bled afterwards, at the time that would've been a really big deal to you. you would be very unlikely to forget something that was once so important to you. im sure he wants to think he was your first, maybe its an ego thing, maybe he's genuinely getting you mixed up with another girl or maybe hes just a bit on the sad side but dont feel like you're going insane because unless you have pre senile dementia, your memory is correct.
Brooke
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): I'm sure you'd remember if it really happened. Perhaps he dreamed it or something.
Sounds to me like he might have a psychological problem. I don't think you have memory loss though.
Phil
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