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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi I'm 20 and I have just came out of a 7 month relationship. my gf is going to uni this sept is on a gap year. she said that she doestnt love me anymore and that the love has faded. she said problems in the relationship came to a head when we started living together and seeing each other everyday. she said she needed some space and decide what she wants in life. she also said that if i was moving to uni with her and how the relationship had moved so fast. she also said she has no idea who she is or what she wants out of life and that is the reason she took a gap year. she first of all said that she would ring me in a week and let me know how she feels then i suggested a month so we left it at that. she also said that she wants to be single at the moment and wants to know what its like because before me she had been in 2 serious long term relationships as well. I feel like this is the end but i want to be optimistic and just hope that maybe she will take it back. the only problem is that she moved into my squat and we squat with 14 other people so we never got anytime to ourselves or for the relationship to develop. she said she would call me in a month and tell me how she feels about stuff. when she broke up she sounded very confuzed and didnt really know what she wanted. I need some advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): You're just going to have to face the fact that she no longer wishes to be with you at the present time. I get the impression she 's trying to let you down as gently as she can. Be gracious and accept it, you can't really do anything else.
She wants to move on with her life, and I would suggest that you do the same. You probably think otherwise, but you're still very young and have a lot of life to live yet. You're on the first few rungs of the relationship ladder and as you slowly climb up it you'll realise there are a lot more rungs to go before you get anywhere near the top. Plenty more fish in the sea and all that!
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Unfortunately this often happens in young relationships, the uni experience is just something else.... She may just want to keep her options open incase she meets anyone there, rather than cheating on you.
It is a big change for her and I guess that with so much going on she has next to no time to consider you. Also often people struggle when they move in together, getting used to the way other people live is difficult and it sounds like in your lives,crowded. Im afraid you are going to have to wait and see how she feels about things when she contacts you. x
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